Men Write to Me and I Write to You
new Substack series in which I rhetorically analyze things men send me 🙄
Burned Haystack
I help women learn the superpower of applied rhetoric, in dating and beyond. Through a novel and rigorous approach, I can teach you to decode the messages beneath people’s words and images and to navigate everyday interactions with clarity and confidence.
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What a Good Dog You Have!
a mini rhetorical analysis
Minimalism: A Love Story
In 2017, I sold the gray house in the background and pared down my life’s possessions to that cube in the foreground, plus what I could fit in my tiny Subaru hatchback (which was not much, considering it also had to contain me, my kid, our cat, and our golden retriever).
Reader Question: How do I apply Burned Haystack when I am already in a serious, committed relationship?
This is both easy and hard to answer.
A Letter to my Paid Subscribers: Thank You and an Invitation
Dear Burned Haystack Community 🔥🥰,
You Can Get the Book Right Here 📘🔥❤️
Click here for links to get it wherever you buys books, U.S.
He Left This Letter on Her Desk AT WORK 😬
Another man failing to grasp the very complex concept of "Leave Me Alone"
The St. Francis Heuristic: How a 13th Century Prayer Can Help You Vet Dating App Men
I am probably the last person on earth who should attempt to translate any sort of religious text into a real life application, but I’m going to do it anyway because I think this is a useful thought experiment.
The Boston Marriage is Back and Better than Ever. Could a Version of it Work for You?
On lesbian tradwives, women-only communities, and contemporary lavender marriages
Can't Decide if You Like Him Enough? Ask Yourself this One Telling Question
This is how we use heuristics on the dating apps. They're a secret weapon. 🔥
Stop Taking Them Seriously: These Guys and the Tradwives Whose Labor They Rode In On
Mock them all
This is Exactly How I Want Women to Use My Book ⬇️🔥
Note to readers: I’ve never done this before, but I’m about to turn a Facebook group member’s post into a Substack article.
An Open Letter to the Men Trying to Sneak into Burned Haystack
There's nothing manlier than lying to enter a private group for women
To Everyone Invoking "The ick" to Prove How Horrible Women Are: A Call and Response
Part 3/3 in my ICK series
Why Do I Keep Attracting Bad Men?
This short article is inspired by a Burned Haystack community member’s question:
Deconstructing The ICK
This is Part 2/3 in a Series
The Ick Needs a Re-Brand. I'm About to Do It.
Image credit Creative Commons
A Temporary Solution for the Facebook Group
I don’t know how long this will last, but for right now I’ve been able to create a secondary profile that allows me to admin and moderate the group.
Mayday Mayday May Day
A report from outside the Facebook group . . .
Note from Jennie Regarding the Facebook Group, Thursday, April 30, 2026
Hi Haystackers,