why I stopped outsourcing my personality to the internet (and the 6-step audit that got it back)
and no, we are not adding to your to-do list. we're subtracting from it, so there's finally room for you.
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tell me if this sounds familiar..."i'll be happy when things get easier."
what if comfort was never actually the goal?
this is the post I didn't know I needed to write until I wrote it — and of course it's happening on the most powerful eclipse of the year 🌑
no perfectly timed decisions. no five-year plans. just the eerie timing of a chirping smoke alarm, an eclipse in my 12th house, and a version of me i'm not taking with me to our new house
why I quit the SAHM schedule everyone swears by (and the weirdly specific system that set me free!)
no color coded whiteboard. no 5am wake up club. just the real, slightly unhinged list of things that keep me anchored when three small people are actively unraveling my day.
I hate when people tell me they "could never" be a stay at home mom
because I used to say it too. I love being a mom. but eight years in and I still do not love being a SAHM. let's talk about it.
beautiful things: everything's coming up Ralph Lauren
a Very Ralph deep dive turned into a full shopping problem — fashion, home, beauty, all of it. linking my pre-fall obsessions below!
I have the marriage, the kids, the house — am I allowed to want more?
because no one likes to see a successful woman — that “friend” from last week included. and yes, we're pulling up birth charts.
the "mental load" is a scam and I fell for it
because as it turns out everyone has one - not just mothers. somebody made a simple observation and then social media turned it into a full blown victim mentality and I'm gonna free you from it
stop trying to make motherhood easier — that's what's making it hard
and yes, this is a message I wrote more for myself than anyone else. it's the post I needed for my own motherhood experience, right in this very moment.
I've been struggling with my self-confidence for years. I've never told the story why.
I'm starting to feel like the darkest years are behind me. but first, I have to tell you about the friend who took something from me I'm only just getting back
I cancelled my therapy session. I couldn't mindset my way out of this one.
I called 911 on the side of the highway two months ago. I knew, somehow, that thinking or talking my way out of what came next wasn't going to work.
I wrote a whole essay defending a belief I'd held for 7 years. then 20 minutes later, it shattered.
I wrote out an essay on the exact belief that's been holding me back for years. I scheduled it, took a walk, reprogrammed my brain and now you get to read about it
why niche down when you can show off how naturally chaotic you really are?
sourdough starters, birth charts, builder-grade windows oh my! welcome to my beautifully unhinged corner of the internet. pick a pillar, or don't, and let's create together.
i have quit more things (jobs, houses, versions of myself) than almost anyone i know. never regretted it once
self-betrayal doesn't look like a dramatic moment. it looks like being reasonable. this is the pattern i've spent my whole life refusing to fall into — and the exact way to spot it in your own life
everything was going great so I needed to burn it all down, naturally
when three doors close another three windows open right? that's the saying? let's talk about how I'm jumping timelines and opening portals this summer, shall we?
I thought I was managing burnout well. I was wrong ⚠️
and all I needed was a panic attack on the side of the highway to realize it but really it gave me a lesson on capacity that I really desperately needed so let's dive in
i'm done having babies and i'm devastated
much to my disappointment, I am not one of those moms who "just knows" I'm done having babies. it's been a very difficult and intentional decision process and I don't think we talk about it enough
you'll never hear me say I don't have time as a mom of 3
time is in fact my b*tch and bends to my will and I want that for you too. I'm going to go deep here and tell you exactly how to make time your bitch so buckle up okay?
call me a quitter, less really is more
I quit my smart watch, my supplements, buying clothes, and scrolling before bed. my life got better immediately. here's what happened when I stopped adding and started subtracting
monthly micro tweaks: april edition
life doesn't change in an overnight overhaul, your life changes in small consistent micro tweaks. so I'm doing the work for you and making a monthly micro tweak guide.