On the questions I never thought to ask and difference between loving your parents and knowing them. This essay on what I learned about being curiosity and the questions we forget to ask the people who raised us, and what it actually means to know someone, not just love them.
Originally I wrote this essay as a submission to The New York Times' Modern Love column. Their submission guidelines ask that the piece not be published elsewhere while under consideration. It wasn't accepted, but I still believe in it, so I'm sharing it here. All about the morning I stood at the stove making biscuits and gravy and realized I was still performing love for someone who had already…
A 17th-century orphan, the descendants he never met, and the ordinary people who built a country before it was America. Writing from England on July 4th, thinking about my country today, and what it actually means to be American, I trace it back to the first English migrants, ordinary people who risked everything on a rumor of survival across the sea. Their overlooked exodus, not the story we're…
What stayed with me | June 2026 - Inside this month's list: A new Instagram project documenting my last year in the farmhouse, what I'm dreaming about once Fefe leaves for school, the word faeloria, three meals I can't choose between, go-to summer recipes, my summer can’t-live-without product and the question I've been asking everyone at dinner.
The research is clear: what we write by hand we keep, what we type slides through us. The hand is slow, and the slowness is where the thinking happens. I've built a life on that slowness. A new essay on handwriting, strangers, and being the only visible interior in the room.