In this episode, I share the mindset shift that changed everything for me. We talk about the stories we tell ourselves that shape our results, why your nervous system plays a bigger role in body change than most people realize, and why I stopped thinking about losing weight and started thinking about releasing it instead.
If you’ve been putting in the work but still feel like your results never last, I think this conversation will resonate with you.
Hi friends, and welcome back to Daily Deposits! Last week’s episode was all about the practical side of body composition. We talked about the three biggest mistakes I see women making when they’re trying to lose body fat: under-eating, doing too much cardio, and not prioritizing protein.
But if you’ve ever followed all the advice (or at least tried different diets, workout plans, etc.) and still found yourself back where you started a few months later, you know there has to be more to the story. That’s what this episode is about.
For a long time, I thought my biggest obstacle was finding the right plan. If I could just discover the perfect way to eat or the perfect workout split, everything would finally click for my postpartum body. But looking back, I don’t think I was truly searching for a better plan. I think I was searching for certainty. I wanted someone to promise me that if I followed the rules closely enough, my body would finally cooperate.
The truth is, I already knew a lot about nutrition. I’ve been a nutrition consultant for over a decade. I knew protein mattered. I knew fiber mattered. I (eventually) figured out strength training mattered. Etc. Etc. Etc. What I didn’t realize was how much the story I was telling myself about my body was influencing every decision I made.
Thanks to my PMOS/PCOS, I told myself I was someone who struggled to lose weight. I told myself my body just held onto fat. I told myself I’d always have an irregular cycle and a thicker midsection. I told myself I’m just someone who craves a lot of sugar. Those thoughts became so familiar that I stopped questioning them. They weren’t beliefs anymore. They felt like facts. They were literally and figuratively my truth.
One of the biggest ideas I explore in this episode is something I call suspending your disbelief. What if your past doesn’t automatically determine your future? What if your body is capable of changing in ways you haven’t experienced yet? Sometimes the biggest breakthrough isn’t finding a new strategy. Rather, it’s becoming willing to believe your current story might not be the only one available to you.
Another shift that completely changed the way I approached fat loss came down to a single word. For years, I wanted to lose weight. Then I started thinking about what it actually means to lose something. When you lose your keys, you expect to find them again. When you lose your phone, same thing. Losing implies something temporary. Losing also implies that you’re going to go searching for something.
What if the goal wasn’t to lose weight, but to release it?
That simple change in language shifted the way I approached my health. Instead of trying to force my body to change through restriction and control, I started focusing on releasing the beliefs and patterns that weren’t serving me anymore. It sounds subtle, but it opened the door to an entirely new perspective.
I also talk about the connection between our nervous system and lasting body change, something I’ve learned a lot about through Nicole Sachs’ work. So many women are trying to change their bodies from a place of frustration or self-criticism. I was one of them. They believe they’ll finally be happy once they reach a certain number on the scale. But our bodies don’t thrive under constant stress, whether that stress comes from our environment or from the way we talk to ourselves every single day.
If you’ve ever felt like you’re doing everything right—or trying all the things but your results never seem to last—I hope this episode gives you a different perspective. I hope it gives you an alternative path forward. Sometimes the missing piece isn’t another diet. Sometimes it’s the story you’ve been carrying about yourself for years.
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