⛔️Cosmic Disclosure Warning ⛔️
I will start this piece with a riddle.
Sorry for historical accuracy, the Sphinx had a lion’s head…
What does evil want more than anything else in the 🌎 World…? But can never have?
Extra Credit
What must Evil give up to get what it wants more than anything else in the world?
Uber Extra Credit - Ja!
Why?
There is no right or wrong answer to this; I will explain my reasoning, but all entries are welcome.
I can write an article as the explanation.
As in most things, this is a thought experiment.
And you’re certainly encouraged to wait till the end to submit your comments.
☣️Uber Cosmetic Disclosure ☣️
Nobody presumes to have the answers to anything, as I am a self-proclaimed nobody. Who believes that thinking you know anything is a bit presumptuous. I have my theories, and I am happy to share them. And I will defend my arguments. But I Always, try to keep an open mind.
For the record: Nobody is a big-time romantic, and I absolutely believe in true Authentic Love. And the best description I have ever heard of it is as follows.
Corinthians 13:4-7
Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others; it is not self-seeking; it is not easily angered; it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.
With that said, it has taken me half a century to experience what this truly means for me. This non-possessive, selfless, yet non-toxic love is not what I grew up with, nor was it what I experienced in marriage, but it is something that I have strived to become. Its tireless pursuit is what has given meaning to my life… and dear I say…
Not in a sad way… 🙃😉🤣
I even had to learn that loving is sometimes letting go…
I believe that I had to break the false image of my family to bring us back to authenticity.
This was the most difficult decision I ever had to make… and to be fully honest… I don’t believe I (🦊My Ego) really knew what I was getting into when I took that leap of faith. Self and the Collective Consciousness that is God might have known… but as far as my Ego 🦊 knew, I was opening Pandora’s Box 📦 sorry, here is a better non-Amazon-looking Pandora’s Box.
Thus the…
Love is the Answer
Bee 🐝 the Solution…
And my other favorite saying…
With Love Always🙏🏼🕊️
Now with that “fun stuff” out of the way,
let’s get onto the more difficult part of today’s adventure into philosophy.
Mein bester Freund, Friedrich Nietzsche, und unser heutiger Philosoph.
What if the person you love the most is not someone you understand, but someone you conquer?
Sit with that question for a second.
Not "get along with." Not "compromise with." Conquer.
That's the kind of question Friedrich Nietzsche forces you to ask. And it's exactly why, more than a century after his death, people still can't agree on whether he was a genius who saw through the polite lies of romance, or a bitter, lonely man projecting his wounds onto the rest of us.
Nobody’s Favorite Nietzsche Meme… 🙃😉🤣
Today we're going to walk through what Nietzsche actually said about women, love, and marriage… not the internet meme version, the real philosophy underneath it. Some of it will make you uncomfortable. Some of it will sound like it was written yesterday.
And by the end, I want you to ask yourself an honest question: how much of what you call "love" is really just an agreement to stop growing?
Yikes, is that poor Friedrich Nietzsche that those ladies are standing on?
Part One: Nietzsche and Women
Let's get the obvious out of the way.
Nietzsche never had a wife.
He proposed marriage more than once and was turned down every time… including, famously, by Lou Salomé, a woman he considered one of the sharpest minds he'd ever met. So yes, take his views on women with the knowledge that this is a man writing from the outside of something he wanted and didn't get.
Lou Salomé, poor Friedrich Nietzsche was not able to get out of the friend zone with Ms. Salomé.
“Lou, I want to marry you…
Tell me what to do to get you?
Is it my mustache?
I will grow it bigger in a flash!
Tell me dear,
Am I too severe,
Or is my rear?
Am I at least getting near?
It is my Pro’s,
Or is it my Poems,
I will do whatever I must do,
To marry you, my dear Lou…💕
Thus Spake Zarathustra! “
Nemo⚓️The Nobody has taken artistic license to craft this poem but is based on a true story🙃😉🤣
But don't dismiss him for that.💔Wounded men sometimes see the clearest, precisely because they were never allowed to get comfortable inside the illusion.
Nietzsche believed men and women were not on a path toward becoming the same. He thought the entire modern project of making men and women identical in nature was a kind of quiet violence against both. In his mind, women had their own form of strength, one that didn't look like a man's strength and didn't need to.
*All images are for comedic value and not meant to offend anyone. Nobody is an equal opportunity Philosopher- Comedian and reserves the right to make fun of all parties, including but not limited to himself.
He accused the "equality" movements of his time of asking women to become worse imitations of men, instead of letting them be powerful as women.
Now, you can disagree with how he framed it, and plenty of serious thinkers have.
But strip away the abrasive language, and there's a question worth keeping: are we, today, still confusing "equal worth" with "identical nature"?
Nietzsche would say that's the trap.
Two things can carry the same weight and still not be the same shape.
Part Two: Love as Will to Power
Here's where it gets uncomfortable for the romantics in the room.
Nietzsche didn't believe in love as most people describe it…this soft, selfless merging of two souls. He thought that story was a lie people tell themselves to hide something rawer underneath. For Nietzsche, love (like everything else in human life) was an expression of what he called the "will to power." Not power over someone in a cruel sense, but the drive to expand, to matter, to be chosen, to be undeniable to another person.
He wrote that a man's love and a woman's love are, at their root, different things. A man, he said, wants a woman as one more possession, one more proof of his strength in the world. A woman, he argued, wants to give herself completely… to disappear into the man she loves, to lose herself in him entirely. (This might be why he never got married🙃) He even said that a woman's love, taken to its full conclusion, is closer to what most people would call fanaticism… because there's no reservation in it, no held-back piece of self.
Whether or not you accept that split, notice what Nietzsche is really attacking: the myth that love is calm, safe, and free of hunger. He thought real love always has ego in it. Always has hunger in it. "There is always some madness in love," he wrote…
But then he added something people forget: "there is always some reason in madness." In other words, the madness isn't a flaw in love. It's the engine of it.
Ask yourself - the last time you were in love, were you at peace? Or were you a little bit insane, a little bit obsessed, a little bit terrified of losing ground? Nietzsche would say that terror wasn't a sign that something was wrong. It was a sign that something was actually alive.
Part Three: Marriage - The Long Conversation
Now here's the part most men ignore completely, because it's the least flattering to modern romantic fantasy.
Nietzsche thought most marriages were a slow-motion tragedy 🎭… not because people picked the wrong partner, but because they built the whole relationship on a feeling instead of a foundation. He said people marry out of infatuation, out of loneliness, out of social pressure, out of the desire not to be single anymore… and then they're shocked, years later, when the infatuation runs out. There’s nothing underneath it to stand on.
His most famous line on the subject is this: "It is not a lack of love, but a lack of friendship that makes unhappy marriages." Read that twice. He's not saying passion is worthless. He's saying passion was never built to last, and if friendship (real, respect-based, conversation-based friendship) isn't sitting underneath the passion, the marriage is a house with no frame or paint.
Special Note- I could not find an image for this, so I am posting images I found while researching this essay.
Special Note- Nobody’s attempt at being multicultural… and silly 🤪 at the same time. Possible epic fail here.
He went even further and called marriage, at its best, "a long conversation." Not a long feeling. A long conversation. Before you commit to spending decades next to someone, Nietzsche said you should ask one blunt question: Will I actually enjoy talking to this person when everything else (the youth, the beauty, the excitement) has quieted down? Because everything else fades. The conversation is what's left.
He also had a warning for people who marry to fix their loneliness or unhappiness. He believed marrying to escape yourself never works… You bring the same unhappy person into a shared house, and now two people are managing one person's unresolved problem.
Bringing It Together
So here's where this leaves us.
Nietzsche's picture of women, love, and marriage isn't comfortable, and it isn't meant to be. It was written by a man swimming against the sentimental currents of his century, and honestly, against ours too. He'll say things that sound harsh, outdated, even wrong by today's standards… and you're allowed to push back on those parts. Plenty of thinkers have.
But underneath the provocation is a question worth taking seriously: are you loving someone, or are you just avoiding being alone? Are you building a marriage, or are you just extending a feeling and hoping it doesn't run out? Is your relationship a long conversation you actually want to keep having …or a silence you're both too afraid to admit is there?
Nietzsche never got the partnership he wanted. Maybe that's why he saw the cracks in everyone else's so clearly.
Take what's useful.
Leave what isn't.
But don't let comfort talk you out of asking the question honestly.
So, what do you love?
Or is it just an agreement to stop growing?
Sit with that.
That's where the real thinking starts.
With Love Always…
Your Philosopher Friend…
Nemo⚓️
The Nobody
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