This Could Be So Much Better
On the deliciousness of blame and the difference between building a sweet life and actually wanting to live in it.
Hilary Silver
Counter-cultural, counter-intuitive, and unapologetically real, Hilary Silver explores love, power, and modern womanhood through wit, wisdom, and radical self-responsibility.
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The Marriage Is Long Over. Nobody Told Your Husband.
“Quiet divorce” is being framed as the midlife woman’s escape hatch. But if you have emotionally left while continuing to live inside the marriage, there is an important question worth asking...
Congratulations, You Won the War of the Sexes. And You’re Still Miserable.
The internet wants women and men locked in an endless prosecution of each other. Radical self-responsibility asks a much more dangerous question: what are you doing with your ONE ACTUAL LIFE?
How to Save Your Marriage by Becoming Less of a Problem
On the seductive bullshit of The Surrendered Wife: asking women to release control, while still making them responsible for creating the man, the intimacy, and the marriage they want.
Call Me A Pussy
The word meant to shame weakness has always named a far more formidable kind of power
I Guess "Male Distress" Is Our Fault Now
Why do stories about female achievement become stories about male suffering?
"When did I stop being a person?”
Gray divorce, female clarity, and why the decision to stay or leave matters less than becoming the woman who decides
Losing My Religion: How to break up with the gospel of being wanted
Why so much dating advice still depends on women disappearing inside male desire, and why the only love worth having depends on an excavation of the self
Welcome to the Era of Me
The world wants to call us selfish while keeping us small. (Part Two)
Female Rage Will Save Us
It's not all men. But it's always a man. (Part One)
Wanna start over in love? Forget about finding someone new.
(Unless that someone new is YOU). The real challenge of finding love again is refusing to recreate the same emotional architecture around a different face and the same fantasy.