Men are not magicians

If I had a finger for every time I heard a woman speak down on a sexual experience, I’d be right next to Musk on the Forbes list…

Granted, many men treat sex with women as if they’re fucking a blow up doll and that is definitely a large part of my point but I have a question: How the fuck did we get here?

When and how did we get to this place where women lie during sex? Lie in the moans, lie in orgasms… just lie, lie, lie. Lie on autopilot then get amongst friends and lie again ORRRR tell the truth… usually depends on the woman and how deep in the trenches she is of her male centeredness because lying to a man for the sake of his ego is one thing but lying to your friends? Okay.

This conversation is very layered. I’m going to make it 3 parts but I have to get through the anal sex mini series first… bear with me, please. As said before, this conversation is extremely layered and it would take hours to get through each point but we are going to focus on how men are not magicians. I think this is a good start because it “forces” you to center your autonomy and take accountability for your sex life.

Men are not magicians, please learn how to fuck yourself. Know what it feels like to insert each finger into your pussy. You should also know what it tastes and smells like to be you. No part of your body should be discovered through a man’s penis or interjection without you already being somewhat aware (some experiences and finds are only capable through another but that can only happen if you are already familiar with your body).

We have to get out of the space of assuming men understand sex because they’re men. We have to remove the idea that men are dominant sexually because they’re men. We have to stop expecting men to know how to sexually please us because they are men.

They are men, not magicians. Your body is yours to discover and share. Be willing to share and explore the road map with a lover (or whomever), be open to correcting and teaching in REAL time. If a man is showing signs of discomfort through you assisting him around your body then he shouldn’t be experiencing you anyway and the session needs to end, immediately.

You have to be willing to stop a man mid stroke and tell him to slow down or speed it the fuck up. Your body is not a toy. You’re a woman, with feelings, nerve endings and a VOICE. Use it.

Men are not magicians. They’re humans too. They’re NOT natural born leaders, providers or protectors. They have to be taught and learn in the same ways we do. It’s a part of the human experience.

Madam❤️

Sidebar: There will be 2 more parts that will be much longer but sometimes I have a thought and have to get it out my brain. Hope you enjoyed this mini read!