Have you ever felt the need to fill the silence in your relationship just to make sure everything was okay? This episode is about why we do that and what becomes possible when we allow space instead.
This week inside the Codependency Alchemy membership, we explored a relationship question from Your Big Leap Yearby Gay Hendricks:
“What is something I could do or say to help you feel more appreciated and treasured?”
What unfolded from that conversation with Justin opened up something much deeper: my tendency to fill the space.
In this episode, I share about what happened when I stopped trying to control silence and how space actually allowed deeper connection between us.
What you’ll learn…
Why silence can feel triggering in relationships
The hidden reason we try to “fill the space”
External vs. internal processing styles
How reassurance-seeking creates more disconnection
What becomes possible when we allow space
This episode is for you if…
You feel anxious when your partner gets quiet
You rush to fix tension or discomfort
You seek reassurance during moments of silence
You over-explain, over-talk, or over-process
Your invitation…
Take a moment to ask yourself these questions and type them out in the comments (or in your journal). Just make sure do somehow do this reflection somewhere that isn’t just in your head, it’s important to witness ourselves in these contemplations.
What do I believe filling the space will provide me with?
Or:
If I don’t fill the space… what am I afraid will happen?
Just notice what comes up, and if you want support exploring these patterns more deeply, the Codependency Alchemy membership is a space where we practice this work together through:
Shadow work
Inner child healing
Monthly live calls
Daily community support in our private chat
Library of on-demand masterclasses and guided meditations for healing codependency and the mother wound
Just click here to learn more and join our growing Codependency Alchemy community.
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