Retirement Was Supposed to Be the Easy Part

You’ve been retired two years, and you still can’t get through an ordinary day.

The list by the coffee pot has three things on it. It’s had the same three things for a month. You keep meaning to start, and then the day’s over and nothing got done.

For thirty years you ran a department. A dozen things went wrong before lunch and you handled every one of them. People came to you when everything fell apart, and you were the one who kept it together.

Now there’s nothing on the calendar and no one waiting on you, and you can’t make yourself start the first thing on a list of three.

There’s a 5-minute worksheet at the end of this newsletter called What Was Holding You Up. It shows you why the open days feel so much harder than the busy ones ever did, and helps you put a piece of that structure back, so they stop getting away from you.

Why the empty days are the hard part

The work was never only keeping you busy. The deadlines, the schedule, the people who needed something from you by Friday, all of it was doing the one thing an ADHD brain finds hardest: deciding what comes first, when to start, and how to keep yourself moving through the day. For most of your working life the world outside you handled that part, and you were free to be good at everything else.

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