Commit to the bit
Let it not be a bit. On vintage troll dolls, returning to summer camp, and the permission slip of writing.
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Hot summer reads for feminist nerds
Some beach reads for people who like their beach with a side of poetic theory, metafiction, and utopian thinking.
Esther Perel on the erotics of uncertainty
Plus: a reality-TV 'bad boy' gets his own series, America's pleasure drought, debating Gen Z sexlessness, replacing sex-ed with marriage propaganda, and more in the roundup.
Pickup artistry was never about women
On the return of the infamous PUA Mystery—who now has an AI girlfriend—and my decades-ago experience getting 'negged' by him during an interview.
Jon Hamm and the 'celebrity hall pass'
Plus: Gen Z’s wannabe Phyllis Schlafly, the trouble with sex today, may Graham Platner swiftly disappear, getting unstuck in the writing process, and more in the link roundup.
This kind of love does not 'conquer all'
On Taylor Swift's wedding and that Empire State Building proposal. Plus: write with me, my early-90s self, 'the billionaire’s vagina club,' a Tarot reading for books, and get my memoir for 20% off.
Rage in the cage
A monster truck rally as portal into the long-ago before — when MMA was ‘hot’ and telling two men to kiss felt like power.
Marriage is not a sexual revolution
Louise Perry is in the New York Times arguing that women should act as though birth control doesn't exist, only fuck men who will be good dads, and learn to love 'the opposite sex' within marriage.
'The purest ecstasy I can conceive'
Plus: my book is an NPR best non-fiction pick, making sense of boomer moms, the Rubik’s cube of pleasure, the pull to unearth family secrets, and more.
What makes a daddy?
Plus: I made Dan Savage cry, my thoughts on Emily Ratajkowski's single-mom essay, attempts at saving marriage, advice for the 'positive masculinity' folks, and more in an early link roundup.