Four Deep Questions for Your Grief Journal

Some days, it can feel hard to know where to start with a grief journal. If you’re staring at a blank page, here are a few questions that might gently open a door instead of demanding answers. You can take one at a time, or just sit with the one that tugs at you most.

You don’t have to write full paragraphs if that feels like too much. A few words, a list, or even a single sentence is enough.

1. “Where is my grief living in my body today?”
You might describe sensations, tightness, heaviness, or even numbness. If that part of your body could speak, what would it say?

2. “What do I wish I could tell them about this season of my life?”
Imagine you have five honest minutes with the person you lost. What would you want them to know about who you are now, what’s hard, and what you’re carrying?

3. “What am I tired of carrying alone?”
List the things - big or small - that feel too heavy to hold all by yourself right now. Is there one piece you wish you could set down, even just for today?

4. “Where do I still feel connected to them, even in tiny ways?”
Think about songs, smells, places, phrases, inside jokes, habits, or everyday moments where their presence brushes up against your life now.

If all you do is copy one of these questions into your journal and breathe with it, that counts as honoring your grief. You’re allowed to move slowly with this.

If part of you wants more company in this season, you can browse resources for therapy, groups, and other supports I’ve gathered here:
→ The Grief Table Resources

And if you’d like more gentle words to sit with on darker evenings, you can curl up with the archive of my grief letters and practices here:
→ The Grief Table Substack Archive

With Care,

Jamie