The Block Nobody Talks About

A new paradigm of Safety & The threshold of safety are two of the most interesting chapters that I wrote in my book. It’s because never in my 15 years of training had I considered ‘safety’ as something essential.

In the first 13 years of being a trainer, I was focused on Communication Skills. I trained 1st year college students to speak up, front-line leaders to speak up, high level executives to speak more powerfully, seasoned working professionals to speak confidently and assertively and everyone in between. I helped them overcome all their fears when it comes to speaking up but never did it cross my mind, that “safety” was also required.

When I was writing the book, and wanted to cover all the blocks that keep us stuck, none of them were new to me, except ‘safety’. And when it was time to write about Safety… I was clueless. I felt stuck. I never had to work on it myself or help others with it, or so I thought. I felt stumped.

But then, I am glad the book was co-created with divine feminine energy… I didn’t have to stay stuck. I knew if I let myself be guided, I would be shown the way. And I was. I was shown the layers of safety and reminded of how I had created it for myself and others when required over the years.

And the chapters wrote themselves. The complementary guided meditation on creating ‘safety within you’, was yet another beautiful piece I was surprised by. It helps you create safety in your body so you can speak your truth or your magic, whatever that may be.

We are scared of making mistakes and we feel like an imposter or are gripped by fear before we do certain things, things you know you are meant to do… And a lot of that fear comes from the lack of safety - safety within you, in your family, or in your community, or your world.

But guess what… you can start by cultivating that safety within you. Because when you feel safe in your body & mind, you know you will have your own back despite any mistakes you may make as you share your magic with the world.

So consider whatever it is that you want to do, feel that nudge from within to go for… and if you are feeling stuck, is it because you don’t feel safe to do so?

Safe to make mistakes knowing that you won’t be hard on yourself?

Safe to mess it up knowing you will be kind and not critical with yourself?

Safe to do what you want knowing that if anything goes wrong, you will have your back? Or that your family will? Or your community will? Or someone will?

Safe to do what you want to knowing that you will be held by yourself or others if things don’t work out or if there’s any backlash of any sort?

When your body doesn’t feel safe… fear shows up and keeps you stuck. Thinking it is protecting you. And it is a good thing, until it starts dulling your spark, keeping you small, stuck & invisible, hides your truth, erodes your self-worth and trust… Makes you doubt yourself in every aspect of your life. Yes, I’ve seen it happen.

It takes just a little doubt to settle in, before you start doubting every thing about yourself. So don’t let fear do that to you. All it takes is a single step to build that trust, that safety, a little by little.

And that does not happen by thinking about it, it happens with action. Any action. A single choice where you decide to be kind to yourself and go for it. And do it again. And again. And again.

Do it for you <3

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