Most of us don’t question how we’re moving through life.
We just move. React. Push. Pull. Achieve. Struggle. And wonder why some things feel so hard but some feel effortless.
It is not just a total lack of awareness but more like we don’t know any different way. So we just keep trying what we know, try finding answers when we are stuck but most of the time, we just keep plodding ahead.
What we don’t realize is that underneath all of it, underneath every decision, every pattern, every way we relate to what’s happening around us… there’s a level of consciousness operating. And that level determines almost everything.
I first came across this framework through Lenka Lutonska’s work, and it blew my mind… Understanding these levels of consciousness changes how you see everything that came before, and everything that’s possible next. And let me tell you… there’s infinite possibilities ahead ✨️
This is where most of us spend most of our lives. Not because we’re broken or anything but because this is what we’re conditioned into.
At this level, life is something that ‘happens to you.’
When things go wrong, someone or something is responsible… circumstances, other people, bad luck, bad timing. You might not even realize you’re doing it. The ‘To Me’ state is often invisible because it feels like the truth. It feels like you’re just describing reality accurately.
No matter how spiritually awake you are, you might find yourself being in this state time and again.
Because what’s actually happening at this level is… you feel you have no power. Over your choices. Over circumstances. Over your life. Over anything.
Not because power doesn’t exist but because in the To Me state - you’ve given it away. To everything that you believe “happened to you”. You feel powerless. That you can’t do anything to change your situation.
But the victim mindset isn’t a flaw. It’s just a consciousness level. And you can shift out of it. By realizing that life isn’t happening “To you” but “For you”.
Everything you move through is for a reason … So that you see how something has been holding you back, or you’re clinging to something not meant for you, or you have not taken responsibility for the effect of choices you’ve made in the past, or expecting different outcomes while repeating the same patterns over and over again.
Once you see, you can’t unsee it. And you move out of the victim state and start taking back your power.
This is where a lot of driven, ambitious, self-aware people live… and burn themselves out.
At the By Me level, you’ve reclaimed your power.
You know that ‘you’ can make things happen. You work hard. You take responsibility. You push through. You figure it out.
This is the hustle mindset. Logic-driven. Action-driven. Self-reliant. It looks like success and in many ways, it is success… compared to where most people start.
I lived here for a long time. I used to map out entire years… rigid plans, long goal lists, and then stress and guilt when things didn’t go a certain way. I thought if I just worked hard enough, figured enough out, pushed through enough walls, I’d get there. And I did get places. But there was always a ceiling. And I was burnt out all the time. Blaming myself that I was not doing enough.
It felt like too much effort, like I was pushing a boulder up the mountain while another boulder was tied to me pulling me down. You start to wonder if life is always going to be a struggle.
If that resonates, I get you. You’re not doing anything wrong. And yes, there’s a better way. You’ve seen it happen, you’ve felt it at times in your life. You might have called it flow, where everything moved effortlessly. But you’re not able to stay in that state. And that is the next level.
This is where flow starts to feel like your natural state rather than something you occasionally stumble into.
At Through Me, you begin to understand that you’re not in this alone. Not in a vague, abstract way… but in a lived, felt way. That you don’t have to try and do everything by yourself. That there is something beyond what you see that can support you.
There’s something co-creating with you. The universe, Source, your higher self, God, however you name it, is not separate from you. It’s working through you.
You start noticing things you can’t fully explain. Synchronicities. Nudges. Doors opening that you didn’t knock on. The right person appearing at exactly the right moment. Ideas arriving fully formed. Everything going smoothly, effortlessly… like cutting through butter.
For me, this shift started when I decided to try being supported. As an extremely analytical, logical & cynical person all my life… I was not ready to believe in something blindly. So I decided to let my curiosity lead me. I decided to experiment.
What would happen if I let myself be supported?
What would happen if I choose to believe that the Universe was “co-creating” with me?
What would happen if I stopped trying so hard and began trusting the flow?
Things I had been forcing for years started happening effortlessly the moment I let them go. The launches that I was knuckling through just stopped feeling like a nightmare. My work started becoming joyful again. My life entirely changed within months literally, I was no longer living in the same place but my dream life.
That’s Through Me. Not passive. Not giving up.
Just finally moving with something instead of against it.
The Through Me state doesn’t ask you to stop taking action. It asks you to start taking different action… aligned, intuitive action.
Not ‘I should do this’ but ‘I feel called to do this.’
This one is harder to explain. Not because it’s complicated but because it has to be experienced to really land.
At As Me level, co-creation goes to a different level entirely. The distinction between you and the universe collapses.
You’re not working with something outside you. You are it.
The Creator and the creation become one.
The form and formless.
Everything and nothing.
At this level, synchronicities don’t feel surprising anymore. They feel like the natural order of things. Information and insights arrive faster than you could think your way to them. You start to move beyond what your logical mind could have ever imagined or planned for you.
I’ve touched this state through my work with Akashic Records and Channeling. Moments where I’m not retrieving information so much as receiving it. Where the creation wants to come through and I’m simply the one it’s coming through. It changes your relationship with time, with effort, with what you think is possible.
I reach it when I am co-creating new creations like my book, Speak your Magic, or my oracle deck or when I co-created a new healing modality, Energy Design Code, seamlessly. This is what’s referred to as the 5D state.
It takes a lot to stay in this state just like you feel you are unable to stay in “Flow” for too long. This requires more connection with Source, more trust in being guided, and surrender to the flow of life to take you where you are meant to go.
In my case, I have been struggling with surrendering completely. My work with the Akashic Records showed me where I was still trying to be in control. My life the last couple of years has been me traversing uncertainty almost always. It has all been a part of learning to be in the As me state.
Because where you go is not even remotely conceivable by your mind. But everything you go through is still happening “For You” to do what you were meant to in this life.
As you read the different levels, you may have seen yourself in any or all of them. Even if not, you can use these questions to find where you might be in different areas of your life.
Think about one particular part of your life or something you have been stuck in and reflect on these questions -
Am I blaming “circumstances, people, timing” for where I am? To Me.
Am I pushing, controlling, white-knuckling it forward? By Me.
Am I taking action but also listening, following nudges, noticing what’s aligning? Through Me.
Am I so connected to what I’m creating that it feels less like doing and more like receiving? As Me.
There’s no wrong answer or wrong level. Awareness of where you are is the beginning of movement.
Also, these levels are not linear in any way. In one area of your life you could still be in a “To me”, while in another you might be in “As me” and in another you might be in “By me”.
None of these levels are “bad”. You learn and grow through all of them. And whichever level you are in, once you are aware of it… You can always choose to move through it.
What moves you is not information or wanting to be at a higher level or even willpower. What moves you is inner work and allowing yourself to be guided by your inner wisdom, soul or intuition.
This is why you may understand the 4 levels conceptually and still wake up the next morning firmly in To Me. The mind knows things the body hasn’t integrated yet or isn’t time yet for you to experience.
The shift happens slowly.
One day something that used to trigger you just... doesn’t. One day you notice synchronicity and instead of calling it coincidence, you recognize it. One day you catch yourself not pushing but things are moving anyway.
That’s the shift in action.
The goal isn’t to skip to As Me. The goal is to know where you are clearly, honestly, without judgment and to do the work that opens the next door.
The level you are in isn’t destiny. It’s a starting point - it's just where you are right now. And awareness - honest, unjudged awareness… is always the first move.
Written by Reshma Bangarimath - Spiritual Coach, Akashic Records Healer & Author of Speak Your Magic | Hyderabad, India · reshmabangarimath.in
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