RECLAIM is a podcast where I examine, interrogate and reclaim pop psychology, self-help and wellness ideas. There are a lot of ideas out there on how to live your best life. It can be hard to know what conflicting advice to follow. I am Thais Sky and as a psychotherapist, I am here to add context and nuance to the conversation so you can discern what will work best for you in living the life you want. I am sometimes joined by incredible guests who offer a vast array of expertise and wisdom in…
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Are you wondering if therapy is working — or whether your therapist might actually be doing more harm than good? In this episode, I break down the real signs of good therapy, therapist red flags to watch for, and how to find the right therapist for meaningful, lasting change. I also explore why AI therapy can't replace a real therapy relationship, how different therapy modalities affect your…
Have you tried every self-worth habit (journaling, affirmations, self-care routines) and still feel fundamentally unworthy? In this episode, I break down why self-worth habits alone can't heal low self-esteem, and what depth psychology reveals about the real roots of the worthiness wound. If you're caught in the self-improvement trap, people pleasing, or struggling with shame and self-worth, this…
Do you need a break — from a relationship, from therapy, or just from life? In this episode, licensed psychotherapist Thaís Sky explores the psychology behind taking a break, unpacking when distance is truly restorative and when it's actually conflict avoidance or fear of intimacy in disguise. Drawing on psychoanalytic therapy principles, she explores how dependency in relationships, attachment…
Why does self hate intensify at the start of the new year? In this episode, I explore self hate, the inner critic, and new year's resolutions though a psychoanalytic lens, examining how new year pressure, self improvement burnout, and the worthiness wound shape our inner lives. We'll look at why we hate ourselves, how shame and relational trauma fuel self loathing, and how to begin the year…
In this episode, Thais Sky breaks down intrusive thoughts, rumination, and anxious thoughts from a psychoanalytic therapy perspective so you can finally understand what these repetitive thoughts actually mean. If you struggle with obsessive thinking, intuition vs anxiety, or harsh self-criticism, this episode will help you discern which thoughts matter, why urgency hijacks your mind, and how to…
There are a lot of difficult parts of being human, and all of those things tend to revolve around feelings that arise within us that are hard to tolerate. Feelings that we have never been taught to feel. Feelings that we have been told are bad. Feelings that now, when they arise, overwhelms, paralyzes and collapses us. In this new series on RECLAIM called Reclaiming What Is Hard, I want to break…
In this episode, I sit down with Dr. Michelle Harwell, PsyD, LMFT, a training and supervising analyst, respected instructor, and practicing clinician specializing in trauma, relational psychoanalysis, and personal development. We explore the depth of psychoanalysis, the art of therapy, and the ways relational and contemporary psychoanalytic principles can help us understand our emotions,…
In this episode of RECLAIM, I dive into an exploration around validation in relationships and explore why we seek validation from partners, parents, and others. Learn how to cope with a lack of validation, understand how its connected to childhood wounds, and discover strategies for healing without validation. If you struggle with self worth or crave constant reassurance, this episode offers a…
In this episode, I dive into the psychoanalytic view of gaslighting, exploring what is gaslighting (and what it's not), and how to recognize it in relationships. I unpack the intricacies of gaslighting dynamics and how you can begin to think about it with more curiosity. Whether it's gaslighting triggers explained or strengthening gaslighting recovery, tune in for insight and ideas for how to…
In this episode of the RECLAIM podcast, I offer some thoughts on the viral Let Them Theory by Mel Robbins. If you've ever struggled with self-abandonment, people pleasing, or attachment patterns, this breakdown is for you. Learn how emotional difficulties, relational deficits, and the worthiness wound all shape our response to rejection—and the ways this pop psychology phenomenon can both help,…
