What do women really find hot?

I bought a year’s paid subscription to Evie’s Substack. Because although written by women for women, they find some solid writers.

These are male “flexes” women notice and don’t notice. But I’ll add my 2c, and also tell you what the women in my life find hot. All these women I’ve traveled with, including a few overseas, so not just some chick in Finance I occasionally grab sushi with.

If you want to read their article first, here it is:

Yes Ma’am.

Competence is sexy. Because competence is the prereq for confidence, and as I’ve always said, confidence in men is like big tits or a pretty face on a woman.

Sure, some guys fake confidence. And they can successfully deceive dumb women.

But, do you really want a dumb woman?

I can’t speak for you but people generally breed true. And the last thing I want are a bunch of dumb kids.

So Gentlemen, find something you enjoy doing. And become elite at it.

You don’t have to be the best. You just need to be in the elite category.

I reached that level in electric guitar, wrestling, and soccer and will reach that level within five years with painting. And by 2040, every reputable winery in America will proudly display a Roman Riva original.

I’ll also reach that level writing.

But this article is about you, not me. What do YOU like doing?

It has to be something you enjoy or else you’d quit.

Talk to the average guy nowadays. Ask him his plans.

Ask him what he enjoys.

Ask him where he sees himself in five years (which is one of the absolute BEST interview questions there is).

With the average guy, you get crickets for every single one of those questions.

Don’t be average, Gentlemen. You’re better than that. And you know it.

I’m going to let you in on another party secret that has done wonders for me with the babes…

I notice who’s struggling socially at a party and I make them feel welcome.

Side effect - women notice.

I have no need to be better than anyone else. Unless of course we’re playing a competitive sport. Then I’m going 100%.

But in a social situation, I make sure everyone feels welcome. Especially if I’m hosting.

The other thing is this doesn’t at all mean you need to kiss ass. Kissing ass is a character flaw.

But the asshole who loves to punch people when they’re down? They never seem to do very well with good women. And it ain’t a coincidence. It shows insecurity.

Note the wording here. Kindness. Not kiss ass. Huge difference.

Kindness is helping out a fellow human being without expecting anything in return. Like helping a stranded motorist. You’re not obligated to do it. You’ll never even see them again. Yet, you do it anyways.

The root of confidence is competence.

So I’m saying it twice now this article.

Get good at shit.

Evie’s article is a pretty good read. That’s why I responded to it. I like to see good writers grow.

Now, my recent personal experiences. These are between Anna, Allie, Roxy, and my female relatives I’ve traveled with. We have a large extended family and I’m close with a lot of them.

I’ve seen every single one of these girls cry too, which sometimes is more emotionally intimate than just traveling with them.

I can’t stress this enough. Third time I’m saying it in this article but it’s the key to male sexiness.

The confident man gets the cute girl. That’s always how it’s been and always how it will be.

If you’re already confident and you’re still striking out, then you’re making one (or both) of these mistakes: