3 Reasons Your Inner Voice Feels So Hard to Hear

The house is a mess. You’re running late. Your kids still aren’t ready and they won’t stop whining. You can’t find your keys.

When you finally leave, you’re driving through traffic, dropping everyone where they need to be, already composing your apology for the meeting you’re definitely going to be late to.

In the evening you reverse it all: back to pick up the kids, back to the house where your shoulders slump the moment you remember the mess that was waiting. Dinner, bedtime, and then finally, finally, you sit down. Your brain is fried. You turn on the television and call it relaxation. You get pulled into some fictional character’s story and go to bed too late. Again.

Your intuition was there all day. You just couldn’t hear it.

It doesn’t compete. It whispers and waits.

We live in a noisy world. Your senses are constantly pulling in information, from your surroundings, from your devices, from your own relentless mind. Your brain has the full-time job of filtering all of it for relevancy. That’s a lot of noise to sort through before a whisper even has a chance.

There are three places that noise tends to come from. Recognizing them is the first step to doing something about it.

1. Your environment

If you live in a home that is stuffed full and visually chaotic, that is a constant stream of low-grade stimulation your brain is processing whether you realize it or not. Every pile, every unfinished project, every thing out of place is a small tug on your attention, an open loop that makes you feel busy in ways you can’t explain. Every open loop is like an additional item on your to-do list, holding a piece of your attention until you close it.

This isn’t about having a perfect home. It’s about recognizing that your physical surroundings are either working with you or against you when it comes to hearing yourself think.

2. Actual sound

I used to live in a midrise in Chicago directly in front of two train lines. Twenty-four hours a day, trains passed close enough that you had to pause mid-conversation and wait. I remember being jolted awake in the middle of the night by a train so loud it sounded like a plane was landing in my bedroom.

The constant noise kept me tense and alert even within my own home, the place I was meant to be most at ease and relaxed. I wasn’t in any danger from the train and I knew it, so I tried to ignore it, but it was a bit too aggressive to ignore. There are some situations where a level of sharp alertness is required and that can inhance your intuition, but this wasn’t one of them. When your nervous system is bracing for the next loud thing, it isn’t available for subtlety.

The same is true for the television that’s always on in the background, the podcast filling every quiet moment in the car, the phone that’s never more than arm’s reach away. None of it feels loud, exactly. But it adds up.

Plus if you listen to music, you might find it’s playing in your mind even when you are sitting in silence, whether you want it to or not (which brings us to our third point).

3. Your own mind

This is the one most people don’t think of as a source of noise, but it might be the loudest of all.

There’s a voice in your head that runs almost constantly — narrating your day, rehashing old conversations, judging you incessantly about every little thing. It is not the same voice as your intuition, but it occupies the same channel. When that voice is always talking, the quieter one can’t get through.

Most of us have never been taught to notice this voice, let alone quiet it. We mistake it for thinking. But there’s a difference between the mind working through a real problem and the mind spinning out of habit. The first is useful. The second is just noise.

Here’s what all three of these have in common: they aren’t character flaws. They’re circumstances. And circumstances can be changed.

You don’t have to overhaul your life to begin hearing your intuition more clearly. But you do have to be honest about what’s crowding it out. Most people never get that far — they just assume they aren’t intuitive, when really they’re just very, very busy.

Next week we’ll look at what you can actually do about it.

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