How To Touch Yourself. (18+)

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Warning: This contains sexual themes, so proceed with caution or don't… 🌚

I'm not here to preach about how masturbation is not evil or unholy, so if you're uncomfortable with it please leave now.

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This subject has been requested by so many ladies, so let's talk about it. I'm not a professional, I'm just a girl who enjoys having orgasms and has learned how to give them to herself.

Also, I wanted to post this in the girls only publication, but I decided against it because it is also helpful for the guys too…

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I remember the first time I tried to touch myself, I used my fingers to rub my clit like I was a DJ at a bar. Omo… I almost peeled my skin. 🤧

So, if you've been in a similar situation, Mama's here to help.

This article is going to focus on clitoral orgasms and I will try to be as detailed as possible, so that you can enjoy the art of masturbation.

Before we continue, we know where the clitoris is right? RIGHT?? Please say yes!!! 🤧

Phew, let's get right into it, shall we?

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HOW TO TOUCH YOURSELF.

1. SET THE MOOD:

Factors such as emotional connection, feeling safe, trust, stress levels, mood, self-confidence, and the context of the situation can have a significant impact on arousal. So the brain plays a major role, it's described as the body's most important sexual organ.

My point is to make sure that you're relaxed, you can play soft sultry music NOT Shallipopi!! Breathe in through your nose and breath out through your mouth, it makes your brain relax.

And when you start touching yourself, concentrate on how your body feels, ignore everything that's happening around you and focus on your body in that moment. Don't forget to lock the door ohh! 😭

2. TEASE/EDGE YOURSELF.

Don't dive straight to your pussy, take your time. Baby oil is an amazing asset for your sexual pleasure, trust me. Oil your body, massage your neck and go slowly to your breasts. Don't rush to the nipples just yet, slowly massage your breasts in slow diminishing circles till you get to your nipples. By now, your nipples should be hard, if it's not there's absolutely no problem. Lightly roll your nipples with one finger, pinch with two fingers (preferably your thumb and index fingers). Pinch as hard as you want (it's your body after all 🌚) and repeat the same process for the other one.

Then, slowly drag your fingers down your stomach. Ignoring your pussy, massage your outer and inner thighs till you finally get to the spot that your body desperately wants you to touch. Place a warm palm over your pussy, no massaging, no rubbing, just light pressure from your palm.

Anyways, you get the point…

3. TECHNIQUE:

I'm writing this article, like I'm writing to someone who hasn't attempted to touch themselves before. So, the trick is to explore and know what you like.

But, my advice would be to not go straight to the clitoris because it is very sensitive. Touch your labia majora, labia minora and even the clitoral hood before going for the clitoris itself. In fact, you can have orgasms through the clitoral hood without touching the clit because of how sensitive it is.

Second, your clit is not those old scratch cards or a DJ disc, no need to jab or scratch it. The same technique you use when you have an itch in your eye is the same you use for your clit.

It's less about movement but more about pressure and pace. So, find a spot, pressure and pace that works for you.

4. CONSISTENCY:

There's no need to change anything once you find what works for you. Maintain it! When you feel your orgasm building, maintain the three Ps — Pace, Position and Pressure. Don't change it, if not you will have to start building your orgasm from the beginning. And even when you reach the peak of your orgasm, don't stop yet, it will lengthen the orgasmic waves and make it more enjoyable.

TOY RECOMMENDATIONS FOR CLITORAL STIMULATION.

Let me start by saying that I don't advise a beginner to get a rose as their first toy. Because that thing is soooo strong.

But here are some other options:

1. A wand — A vibrator, battery and rechargeable options are available, it has different vibration speed and setting, majorly for clitoral stimulation.

2. Rabbit — A vibrator, battery and rechargeable options are available, it has different vibration speed and it's for clitoral and penetrative stimulation.

3. Dolphin — A vibrator, uses battery, limited vibration speed but very fast and durable.

These are the options that I have for now, feel free to drop more recommendations in the comment section. 🫶🏾

For the ladies, if you have questions, feel free to drop it in the girls only publication so that we can discuss.

Remember, it's your body. Treat her right because she deserves it. 🫶🏾🩷

And btw, this is my 50th post on Substack. 🩷🩷🩷

I love y'all… Byeeee 🥹🩷