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In the wake of a betrayal, people often go through three stages: crisis, meaning-making, and vision. When the dust has settled on the major revelation, it is time to figure out what happened, and what it means.
Meaning-making is about moving from a flat story—you cheated; you lied; you hid—to a more dimensional understanding. What dynamic allowed this to happen? This is not to excuse it, but to contextualize it, to understand it. Why does this matter? Because understanding is at the heart of rebuilding trust. If I cannot understand what the betrayal meant, how can I know what repair will look like, whether repair is wanted, or even possible?
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