Mindset hacks for a badass life, hosted by cognitive neuroscientist Alexis Fernandez. On Mondays my episodes are a combo of neuroscience and psychology. I deep dive into everything from habit formation and how to live a carefree life, to friendships and heartbreak. And on Fridays we've got Head Noise - where I answer your questions! Email info@dyfmpod.com to submit your questions. Order your copy of my latest book How to Chase Change at https://bit.ly/44xwszR
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Life Advice Episode! (Trigger warning) In this episode we cover dealing with infant loss and friends and family who did not provide support, how to forgive them? (IF you can forgive them). Then we talk about how to take on information from a psychic, is it set in stone? Is it a self fulfilling prophecy? Lastly I answer a listener question around learning how to be funny. Is it possible to teach…
Are you tired of counting down the days until the weekend, only to feel anxious and overwhelmed when Sunday evening rolls around? Do you dread the start of the week, feeling like you're just going through the motions until you can escape to a holiday or vacation? This episode is for you. One of the key takeaways from this episode is the importance of being intentional with your time and energy. I…
Welcome to day 5! the final day of the Self Love Mini Series. In this episode, I will teach you about the importance of independence in cultivating self-love and self-respect. Independence is often misunderstood as being the same as being hyper-independent, but the two are actually quite different. One is a fear response that can lead to an inability to trust oneself and others, whereas the other…
In today's ep of the pod, Jake and Otti from the Relatables join me to discuss the Modern Dating Survival Guide. We dive into the world of relationships, sharing their thoughts on what men and women often get wrong in their pursuit of love. We talk about the importance of emotional maturity to the dangers of societal expectations, this episode is a must-listen for anyone navigating the dating…
WELCOME to day 4 of our self love mini series (hope you are loving it and thriving so far). In today's episode, I talk about the importance of self-efficacy, a crucial component of self-love that lets us to believe in our ability to handle challenges, learn new skills, and bounce back from setbacks. Self-efficacy is not just about feeling good about ourselves, but about taking action and making…
Bonjour and welcome to day 3 of my self love mini series. How we are going to FIND self love. that is the focus today. In this episode you will learn how to reset your self-worth by leaving behind unhealthy relationships and how to stop beating yourselves up over past mistakes by turning them into valuable lessons. We often seek validation and love from others because we don't give it to ourselves…
Welcome to day 2 of our Self Love Mini Series. In this ep we explore the importance of self worth when it comes to increasing self love. It's easy to get caught up in the idea that we're enough just as we are, but the truth is, feeling good about ourselves is often tied to the value we provide to ourselves and others. No matter how many times someone tells you you are good enough, if you do not…
Bonjour and welcome to the ep of today. I am going to give you a (long) pep talk about how to know if you should walk away from a relationship (without feeling as if you are giving up). I cover an array of key points to consider, including how problems are resolved in relationships, how to know if you are being manipulated or if the relationship has run its course, and how to not be so riddled…
Bonjour!!! it is time to bring back the Self Love mini series. This is a much loved series encore from last year. 5 days of actionable, practical tools and mindset shifts to start improving how you are feeling about yourself. In the first ep, we talk about the importance of your relationship with yourself and how self worth really plays into self love. I also touch on Neuroplasticity and how you…
Bonjour and welcome to head noise Friday where I give life advice and we unpack all the crazy things you are going through and try to get as close to a solution or close to making sense as possible. We have three email questions today. We talk about if you really need to chase change when its not something that excites you, and what to do when a great freindship turns one sided and goes south? do…
Determination is a crucial aspect of achieving our goals and living a fulfilling life. But what drives determination, and how can we cultivate it? In this ep we are diving into the neuroscience behind determination, exploring the brain regions and neurochemicals involved in this complex process. Determination is not just about motivation, but about having the staying power to see things through,…
In today's episode, I talk about the concept of decision fatigue and how it affects our daily lives. Being bombarded with choices, from what to wear to what to eat, and it's easy to get caught up in the overwhelm. But what if you could simplify your decision-making process and make choices with confidence? One of the key takeaways from this episode is the importance of automating repetitive…
In this episode, I delve into the psychology of luck and give you some practical tips on how to become a luckier person. I talk about the concept of beginner's luck to reframing failures, this episode is packed with actionable advice to help you shift your mindset and attract more good fortune into your life. I also touch on a study on the psychology of luck, which demonstrates that people who…
In this head noise episode, I respond to a listeners question around coercive control and I go further in depth, covering the complex and often subtle signs of coercive control in relationships, and offers guidance on how to support loved ones who may be experiencing it. Coercive control is a form of psychological abuse that can be just as damaging as physical violence, and it's essential to…
In today's episode (a specialized head noise ep), I go into the importance of having a gap between relationships, the benefits of taking time to heal and focus on personal growth before jumping into a new partnership. Key takeaways from this episode include the importance of recognising patterns in relationships, learning to provide your own happiness, and developing emotional resilience. If…
Intrusive thoughts - those unwanted, distressing, and often disturbing mental images or urges that pop into our minds without warning. They're a common experience for most people, but for some, they can be debilitating and all-consuming. In this episode, I take you through the neuroscience behind intrusive thoughts, exploring what they are, why they happen, and how to deal with them. Intrusive…
In today's episode, I'm going to take you through 16 actionable tips to help you "unrot" our brains, including doing a daily brain training game, carrying a book or kindle, and setting a time limit on passive social media consumption. These tips are designed to be achievable and accessible, making it easier for us to make positive changes in our lives. If you're feeling stuck or struggling with…
In this ep I talk about the complex world of cognitive fatigue, going into the neuroscience behind why we feel drained, demotivated, and disconnected from life. We're not just talking about being tired, but a state of being that's often misunderstood. This ep also covers the intricate mechanisms behind our brain's response to stress, inflammation, and disrupted circadian rhythms, the difference…
Welcome to your Head Noise Episode where we cover all kinds of questions from YOU. Today I cover 4 questions, topics range from dealing with a partner who is refusing to pull his weight, choosing between your home town that you love or moving away to find love, timing dating someone new and more. To have your questions answered, send your question to info@dyfmpod.com Danke! See…
In this episode, we explore the neural basis of self-esteem and low self-esteem. With a focus on the brain's physical changes that can impact our moods and self-perception, this episode will help you understand the complex relationship between our brains and our sense of self-worth. The episode also covers the importance of affect regulation, pride, and self-talk in building high self-esteem. How…
In this episode, i talk about the concept of survivorship bias, a logical error that occurs when we focus on successful outcomes and ignore failures, leading to skewed conclusions. This phenomenon is all too common in our daily lives, from the way we perceive success stories to the way we make decisions about our own futures. Something to learn from this episode is the importance of considering…
In this episode, I share 10 ways to fall in love with your life again, from rethinking the first three minutes of your day to becoming an expert in a new topic each month. We are going on a journey to rediscover the joy in everyday moments. One of the key takeaways from this episode is the idea that happiness is not just about achieving big milestones, but also about finding joy in the small,…
Welcome to head noise. (I know I am a day late) In this episode we cover What to do when you leave a marriage and then your partner makes all the changes you wanted them to make while you were together, in order to get back with you. How to deal with narcissistic mother in law and her friends. And how to navigate fears around pregnancy and deciding if it is the path you want to go on. If you would…
In this episode, I delve into the world of miserable people and how they can be a drain on our lives. We've all met that someone who seems to thrive on negativity, always finding fault in others and themselves, and making us feel like we're stuck in a never-ending cycle of misery. But what drives these people to be so consumed by negativity, and how can we deal with them? I talk about the concept…
Enclothed Cognition: In today's episode, I delve into the fascinating concept of enclothed cognition, which shows us how the clothes we wear can significantly influence our minds, moods, and behaviours. This idea is rooted in a study by Adam and Glinsky, published in the Journal of Experimental Social Psychology, which explores the relationship between clothing and psychological processes. The…
BONJOUR! IT IS TIME to unlock the power of positive self-talk Have you ever found yourself stuck in a rut, replaying negative thoughts and emotions that hold you back from living the life you want? You're not alone. In this episode, I go into the neuroscience of positive self-talk and how it can transform your brain, outlook, and interactions with the world. We explore the concept of self-talk,…
Bonjour and welcome to a listener advice episode (Head Noise) Today we talk about Friendship icks, dealing with friends who always cancel, how to move on after being cheated on (even when you are doing all the right things), and dealing with your boyfriend liking provocative photos of their friends online. Danke for tuning in! See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
The Power of Showing Up In this episode, I talk about importance of showing up for others and ourselves and how this concept can lead to stronger relationships, increased self-esteem, and a greater sense of purpose. I talk about the benefits of showing up for others, including releasing neurochemicals that boost our mood and sense of purpose. And the importance of being consistent in our…
In today's episode, I talk about the importance of letting go of certain habits that can hold us back from living life in a cool calm and collected way. We're talking about the things that keep us stuck, anxious, and unhappy, and how releasing them can lead to a more fulfilling and peaceful existence. I go into TEN things to let go of in order to feel happier. So remind yourself of these things…
In this episode, I delve into social anxiety disorder (SAD). I go into the differences between social anxiety and shyness, and the neuroscience behind social anxiety, including the role of the amygdala and the impact of serotonin and dopamine on our behavior. The episode covers the DSM-5 definition of social anxiety disorder, and I share practical advice on how to manage social anxiety, including…
Bonjour! This is a crowd fave so thought I would bring it back in all its glory. (also got a heap of interest about the MSG science fact!) This ep will challenge your perspective on life and help you cultivate a more mindful approach to the ups and downs that come our way. by accepting these five simple things today you will notice a weight drop off your shoulders, you will feel lighter, and more…
In this episode,I delve into the concept of a regulated nervous system and how it can be achieved. We're not talking about being a calm and serene person all the time, but instead, learning to navigate our emotions and respond to situations in an appropriate way. This ep explains what a regulated nervous system is and how it differs from an unregulated one, and how a regulated nervous system is…
In this episode, I answer three listener questions. From the impact of artificial intelligence on future generations to navigating toxic relationships and setting boundaries with family members, this episode covers it all. I talk about how to find hope in a world where technology is rapidly changing the way we live and work and how important it is to teach children to be adaptable and independent.…
A Marriage on the Brink: Navigating Porn Addiction and Relationship Dynamics Episode 503 In this episode, I delve into a deeply personal question from a listener who's struggling to cope with her husband's porn addiction. I talk about the devastating impact of this addiction on relationships, and the importance of prioritising your own own well-being. This ep covers the complexities of porn…
In a world where social media reigns supreme, it's easy to get caught up in the endless scroll and lose sight of what truly matters. But what if you could break free from the cycle of comparison and distraction, and find a sense of calm and clarity in a world that's increasingly chaotic? This episode is all about the psychology of the slow life, where we're talking about moving away from addictive…
Ahhhh Insecurities. I feel like they are used against us in all areas of life. Advertising, social media, internet trolls, trends, unhealthy relationships and even well meaning friends and family! this ep uncovers what insecurities actually are, the common behaviors to look out for in yourself, and how to learn to live with, embrace or change (in a healthy way) the things that you are insecure…
Head Noise today! Episode 500! I have your voice note listener questions (love them and your voices SAAAAAAAA much). The questions and titles are perfection and I hope to give you some food for thought to get you closer to your answer. 1. At what point do I walk away? 2. Abrupt ending to a relationship 3. Attachment Style (How to stop protectively detaching?) We talk all things break up, heart…
Bonjour beans, and welcome to the episode today. - Episode 499. We go into a sort of 'bingo' of things that may be said by a narcissistic family member. I gathered a lot of this information thanks to you guys, my audience and what you have written in in response to my questions around dealing with difficult family members. I also do a pharmacology fact (Quaaludes) and a listener question at the…
Bonjour and welcome to the episode of today! Given that I am on the brink of losing my voice I thought I would bring back a crowd favourite with this episode I released a while back. In this episode I have my brain fact of the Swimmers Body Illusion, and then I go into why it is so hard to let someone / something go and ways to feel more empowered to do that thing. Danke and enjoy See…
My beans you voted for this episode and I am so pumped to bring it to you! I have put the poll up on Spotify and we will post stories on our socials today! Follow @doyoufkingmind on IG Follow @dyfmpodcast on TT Join the DYFM…
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The episode I mentioned on How to Make Friends in your 20s, 30's and beyond here: https://open.spotify.com/episode/6iY0XkqmrtIuCHfJ95UUAD?si=zqjCSkW8QB-FOTM4rj38ew Join the DYFM Facebook Group Follow @doyoufkingmind on IG Follow @dyfmpodcast…
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Part 2 of the neuroscience of making and breaking habits. Here I delve into the best and most effective ways to break a habit, and I give options to try depending on what kind of habit you want to stop. Take notes, write it all down and see if it helps you. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
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We are HERE!!! with another Neuroscience episode. I tried to pack it all into one, but alas, I have to split it into two eps. Part one is all about how to make a habit. I talk about what brain areas and what neurochemicals are involved in creating and strengthening a habit. How to harness the times of day, locations and neurotransmitters to give yourself the best chance of succeeding How to…
BONJOUR. And welcome to one of my most important episodes for your brain health. This episode was originally released a few years ago (episode 88) and would have to be top 5 of my all time favourite episodes due to how much you will learn about how good saunas can be for your brain health, your stress levels, sleep and overall physical health. How many times per week, how long etc will all be…
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This is the episode you have been asking for and waiting for and we are finally here! How do you really know if you want children? Can you ever truly be ready for it? And what kind of questions do you need to ask yourself AND your partner before embarking on starting a family, or choosing to not. While I cannot give you black and white answers, I really hope this episode helps you get deeper into…
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