Negging

My housemate’s cat hates me. She likes everyone else in the house, including the person who is allergic to cats. But she hates me. This is very unfair, I have not done anything to deserve this.

Most of my housemates were away today. For the first time, the cat sat on my lap. I made sure to not move at all so as to maximise my comfort as a mat for cat. Including when the cat decided to dig it’s nails into my leg.

I also bought new shoes from Sports Direct recently - the Aldi of sportwear. The man in the shop was on the rude side. Also apparently one is only allowed to try on two pairs of shoes at a time in Sports Direct. Anyway, somehow I ended up saying ‘thank you to the man about 7 times during the interaction, and also bought some insoles which I do not want or need.

It seems to me that I would have been a lot less accommodating is the cat and the Sports Direct man were nicer to me. I don’t understand exactly what is going on here, but I think this is negging.

Also, I have been eating a lot of börek recently. I initially went to a expensive cafe nearby to buy my börek. The first time I went there I didn’t actually have a börek but instead had a halloumi sandwich and 2 side salads as part of their lunchtime deal. The man (a different man to the Sports Direct man) said I could have 3 side salads instead of the advertised two. I recently discovered that there is a supermarket right next to the expensive cafe which also sells böreks, but much cheaper. And I have started going there instead. But I have to walk past the expensive cafe and when I do this I am unable to make eye contact with the expensive cafe. It seems that my psyche understood the accepting of the third side salad as a pledge of allegiance to the expensive cafe, and now I feel a deep sense of shame and disloyalty whenever I go to the cheap supermarket to buy the much more reasonably priced börek instead.

I don’t think this is negging, but it seems similiar, somehow.