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This post: the unintended signals that tell our easy child their struggles aren’t as important
They might be hiding more than you think.
We’ve all been there. One child who’s just... easy. Independent, low-drama, easy to be around. And another who takes more more patience, more energy, more of everything you’ve got some days.
It’s natural to feel grateful for the easy one. It’s just as natural, on the hard days, to lean on them a little. When we lean on our “easy” kids as confidants, we accidentally teach them something dangerous.
Dr. Carol Matheson has seen where this can lead. Not because anything about it feels wrong in the moment but because of what an easier child quietly learns from being on the receiving end of it, again and again.
A quick chat with an expert
▶️ [Video: Giving Your Child Permission to Struggle]
Dr. Carol Matheson | 1 Minute
⚡ Quick Tips
Looking for a fast reminder? Here’s the short version.
Things to Think About:
Let them know It’s safe to complain
Welcome all feelings, so they don’t have to hide their own
Reassure them that are loved for who they are, not for being “easy”
Key Takeaway: Every child needs permission to have bad days, make mistakes, and ask for help. Make sure your easy child hears this message loud and clear: “I love you on your hard days just as much as your easy ones.”
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