Let Them Doubt You. Build Anyway.

There’s a certain level of delusion that you have to possess when going after the thing you can’t see.
Or have never seen.

The trait of a dream chaser.
A generational curse breaker.
The first in your family.
The main character.
The one.

Chasing your dreams can feel like torture before it feels like pleasure.

It comes at you out of nowhere.

You have an idea to create, build, or start something.
A part of you feels like you’re losing your mind because there’s no way this is logical.

Just look at the state of the world.
It’s chaos.

It’s not the “right” time for risk.
But when is?

Entrepreneurship is risky.
Allowing yourself to be seen and heard is risky.
Being comfortable is risky.
Doing nothing is risky.

So why not do?

Give yourself permission to be honest about what you want.

I used to think that dreams were these big, grand, unattainable things. But for some of us, the dream is as simple as being able to be around people who see us for us.
People who love and appreciate us.

The dream is to work in a career or start a business that we are proud of, passionate about, and that sustains us.

The dream is to reparent yourself.
To give your adult self a life you never had.

The dream is to give your children a better life than you had.

Dreams…

So many of us downplay our dreams because they seem so far-fetched. And they probably do sound that way because most people are not real about:

1. where they want to go

2. and then actually taking the steps to go towards it, with everything they’ve got

Dreams…

You can taste it.
See it when you close your eyes.
But every day feels the same.

You’ve read the self-help books.
You’ve watched the manifestation videos.
And that is a good thing, because your mindset has to match the energy of what you want to pursue.

But at some point, belief has to meet action.

You scroll on socials for hours, and it seems like everyone is living the “dream” life, or the illusion of it.

I dive deeper into comparison, originality, and redefining success for yourself in the letter linked here.

But for those of us past that point, this letter is for you.

Consider this your reminder to have the audacity to chase your dreams.

For as long as I can remember, people have always spoken over my life. And if you’re not familiar with that phrase, it basically means when someone declares what you will and won’t do in your life.

For some of us, this happened more than for others.
For some of us, it came from parents, family, and “friends.”

Reflection is so important on the journey of becoming her because growing up, I was always told I had issues with authority figures. And through reflection, it dawned on me why.

For as long as I can remember, the majority of authority figures, whether caretakers or teachers, tried to put me in a box.

They tried to silence my voice and dim my light.

As I have now worked through family dynamics and unlearning, another layer came to the surface: teachers.

I remember a teacher making a joke and calling me out in front of the entire class because I questioned a picture in my science book. I was to understand the text and only that.

This is on brand with the school system as a whole. What is in the textbook is all that we are to believe.

I was never someone who wanted to take things at face value.
I was always curious, and for good reason.

I remember a teacher telling my mom I never found my tribe in school, when she knew I was severely bullied for being the nerdy kid in class. Never once did she intervene.

Bullying was seen as something “you just have to suck up.”
But it did affect me at the time.

I remember my high school counselor telling me that I would be better off getting a trade than pursuing my degree in university. And it’s okay, because some kids are “meant for college” and some are not.

There was no interest in why, at that time, I was falling behind.

Failed protection from people you spend months, and in some cases years, with.

And still, they did not truly know you.

Nevertheless, every situation is a blessing or a lesson, even if you can’t categorize it right in that moment.

Sometimes the answers come years later. And although you are an adult now, those small things shape your self-concept, confidence, and self-belief.

I pledged then and now that I am to always prove to myself right first, and in return, I would be proving others wrong.

And I have every time.

I’ve also come to realize that when all else fails, spite is the best motivator and has been used by many for years.

It’s the reason for the “revenge body” post-breakup, career climbs, and hitting multiple goals.

It starts with spite or “I’ll show them” feelings, and if done correctly, can eventually become a part of who you are.

At first, it may be survival. But if you keep going, it becomes self-belief.

Thanks to my caretakers and educators, I sought therapy, discovered how I learned best, got my degree, started writing, freelancing, creating content, and the list goes on.

Alchemy, to me, is the practice of taking what was heavy and using it differently.

Fear.
Anger.
Shame.
Doubt.
Underestimation.

Instead of letting those things harden you, define you, or keep you stuck, you learn how to work with them. You learn how to turn them into movement, clarity, self-trust, and eventually peace.

It shows up physically, in the way your body releases tension.
Emotionally, in the way you stop suppressing what hurt you and finally process it.
Mentally, in the way you challenge limiting beliefs and start seeing your life differently.

It is a practice.
And it is an art.

For me, alchemy looked like taking the anger I felt from being underestimated and turning it into discipline.
It looked like taking the pain of being spoken over and turning it into a life where my voice is now the very thing I use to create.

Because what gives someone the right to talk over your life?
To categorize you?
To put you in a box?

“Thank the people who underestimate you because they might be the ones to activate you.”

Sometimes being underestimated hurts first because it can echo the very things you were already afraid might be true about you. That’s why it hits so deep.

But if you let it, it can also become the moment you stop outsourcing your identity and start deciding for yourself who you are, what you’re capable of, and what your life gets to become.

Underestimating you is where you get to build in silence.

In the book The 48 Laws of Power, Law 4 states: always say less than necessary.

The more you say, the more likely you are to give a lot away.

This is a law I have come to live by.

Now, there are many examples in the book, but the concept I created based on that law is this:

People cannot sabotage or energetically project onto your goals, dreams, and visions if they do not know them.

What is meant for you will always be for you, but why risk it?

Of course, use discernment and don’t be afraid to speak up, but being an observer is one of the best things you can do on your journey to becoming her.

Know when it is your time to work in silence.

Know that you have to get comfortable and confident in your ideas before you allow the opinions of others in.

Especially the opinions of people whose life, career, or relationship you would not want.

Learn to validate your ideas and creative nudges.

If it’s been done before, that is proof that you are meant to add your own unique twist or improve where there are gaps.

And if it does not exist, even better, because it is a goal or vision that was sent to you for you to execute.

And be first.

What if it all works out?
What if you’re meant to fail at the thing so that better can come?

Six months ago, I never would have thought I would publish openly on Substack and grow to over 40k of you.

Never would I have thought that a childhood dream to tell stories and write would be brought back to the surface, not professionally as I’ve done time and time again, but personally.

Because usually the thing that keeps returning is not random. It is asking for your attention.

What is something that has been on your mind that keeps coming up over and over again?

The idea you keep revisiting.
The version of your life you can see when you let yourself think freely.

What if you gave yourself six months?

Six months of taking your ideas seriously.
Six months of building quietly.
Six months of trusting that what was placed on your heart is there for a reason.

Sometimes the difference between the life someone imagined and the one they’re living…

It is simply the moment they decide to begin.

Maybe this is your moment.

It’s crazy until it works.

Chasing your dreams is one thing.
But actually starting is where most people get stuck.

And maybe the point was never to wait until it all made sense.
Maybe the point was to trust yourself enough to start before you had proof.
To let the dream be yours.
To let the life you want be worth the risk.

Later this week in the Inner Circle, we’re talking about the real reason people stay stuck and what it actually takes to move.

Not laziness.
Not lack of talent.
The invisible blocks that keep people in preparation mode long after they should have started.

We’re getting into fear of being seen, self concept, confidence, creative blocks, money beliefs, and the patterns that keep people overthinking instead of moving.

If you’re ready to get back on track with your ideas, your projects, and the life you keep saying you want, meet me there. NEW Inner Circle Letter:

When you join the Inner Circle, you’ll also get access to the previous paid letters inside the archive.