You Learned to Be Needed Before You Learned to Be Loved
Sometimes people do not chase being needed because they want attention. They chase it because being useful once felt like the safest way to stay close.
Therapist Notes
For people who think too much and feel too deeply. These are the notes that help you understand yourself without judgment.
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