Why Do I Need My Abuser to Understand? (Craving Closure from Abusers)
Why you keep explaining yourself to someone who has already shown you that he doesn't care. And how to free yourself from needing your abuser to understand.
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How Bad Men Benefit the Less Bad Men
On the men who think they deserve a medal for basic decency.
Patriarchy Eats Your Attention in 7 Ways (at a Minimum)
Men don't have to be in the room to occupy your mind.
Does My Husband Hate Me? He Acts As If He Does (Reader Asks)
Reader wonders if her husband hates her.
Why Are Women Hot for Non-Human Males?
The bar for men is so low that women are attracted to imaginary wicker creatures and undead ghouls.
Is My Desperation Making Abusers Target Me? (Reader Asks)
Reader worries that her desire to find love might be attracting abusers more.
The Crazy Cat Lady Insult Is No Longer the Flex Misogynists Think It Is
The history of the “crazy cat lady” stereotype, and why unmarried women have always been treated as a social problem.
When You Need a Doctor’s Note for Your Husband
When husbands are not medically cleared to accept 'no' from their wives unless a doctor signs off on it.
Decentering Men: What It Actually Means (And Doesn't Mean)
Attention is a political resource that patriarchal systems count on and deliberately dismiss.
Am I expecting too much from my husband, or have I become his maid? (Reader Asks)
Reader's Husband Says She Does All the Housework Because She Does It Better. Is That a Valid Excuse?
The Sad Life of Misogynistic Men
How Sexist Ideas Make Men Miserable, Too.
The Myth that Women Were Housewives for Most of History
Quick note before we begin: do you have any preferences regarding my publishing frequency?
The Hidden Femicides That Don't Look Like Murder
How abuse-driven suicides and suspicious deaths vanish from the record.
Is My Husband Trying to Get Me Drunk Before Sex? (Reader Asks)
The Detail in This Letter That Changed My Mind Completely About Her Husband's Intentions.
'Boundaries' as a Front for Coercive Control
How men are weaponizing therapy speak about boundaries in order to perpetuate more patriarchal relational aggression.
The Sexual Script of Heterosexuality Is Broken
The ways heterosexual people are having sex are culture-driven, at least in part, and they're reducing connectivity and eroding consent.
My Husband's Anger Is Getting Worse (Reader Asks)
A reader wonders how can she tell when a husband's anger is getting dangerous.
Women's Unspoken Midlife Grief
Mourning a Future That Never Happened
Women Built the World #9 - Eunice Newton Foote
She's the first physicist to discover the greenhouse effect, decades before the rest of the scientists figured it out.
The Hidden Economy of Patriarchy: Women's Free Work
How Women's Unpaid Labor Subsidizes Capitalism and What's the Actual Amount We're Leaving on the Table.
Women's Vote Is Apparently Up for Debate Again
The Long Road Back: Why the American Right Is Reimagining a World Without Women's Political Power.
Crowdsourcing Rape: The Community Behind the Crime
How men collaborate, teach, and normalize sexual violence in their networks.