Seth Godin on The Game of Life, The Value of Hacks, and Overcoming Anxiety (#476)

I remember Squidoo. Never realized it was him. The Palm Beach Post had a purple cow and was a big fan of his book.

Thank you Tim. This conversation is a beautiful back-and-forth and hit that goldilocks depth and breadth.

Love Seth! And, love your podcast. Big fan. If you're looking to expand your stable of portrait illustrators, I would love to collaborate. Thanking you in advance for actually reading this and double thanks for taking the time to check out my work. It means the world!

Thanks for this gift Tim. You two have been an incredible inspiration. And I hope the conversation made you want to publish more of your imperfect writing on the blog, because I for one, love reading it. Stay well.

Hey Tim. I hear you with the frustration and lack of momentum around writing. Have you considered working with a ghostwriter or book coach? Maybe all you need is a dance partner to help you dig out the brilliance that's stuck in your head!

This is what I wrote in morning pages today. (it’s really a kind of miracle that I can just read it aloud and my ipad turns it into text.) The turning point for me was Seth saying attitudes are habits. It really stopped my intellect for a second. I heard, if you aren’t thinking habitually in the direction of the attitude you intend, it will weaken. So finally, this morning, something got that, and said, stop the intellect. The intellect is supposed to be pessimistic, but only when that’s helpful. When everything is going well – helpful circumstances, lots of resources—the intellect can do its thing and it will be balanced by optimism of the will, because there will be so much feeding that optimism. But when the will is weakened – whether by circumstances or lack of resources or undermining habits or whatever – the intellect becomes your enemy. Once it gets the upper hand, once it becomes the master, you will keep shooting yourself in the foot. If only with a mess of sticky crap that still makes it impossible to move. And then the past and the future become your enemy as well, because the phenomenology of depression sets in. The intellect, by nature, looks at the past and remembers the bad things. That’s the evolutionary advantage of having an intellect. But when it looks into the future, if it has hope, it’s hope for the wrong thing. T. S. Eliot was both right and wrong. I don’t have to say it to my soul. I have to say it to my intellect: “be still, and wait without hope, for hope would be hope for the wrong thing.” Wait without passion – the intellect has passions, not love—for passion would be passion for the wrong thing. Writing that, a weight lifted off my chest. Wait without wish. I wish I could share this with someone who would really get it. Stop wishing now. “Wait without thought, for you are not ready for thought.” We’re in the middle of something too much like the Blitz! Dear intellect, you are not equipped to deal with this. Our circumstances suck. That’s enough thinking. Our resources are seriously depleted. Thank you for pointing that out. That’s what I need you to keep reminding me. Forget about the rest, or shut up. Just say, “I must go on. I can’t go on. I’ll go on.” That’s all I want to hear from you. Just get to “I’ll go on” and then hush. Wait. Let something else do the thinking. And something else did. It said, very slowly: at a time like this, the past becomes your enemy, because the intellect is morbid. Unless you hush the intellect, the vicious dialectic continues. But if you say, be still, then you can turn to my voice, which can say: you have resources in your memories. There may be people who don’t. But I would bet most people, if they put their minds to it, could find resources in their memories. At a time like this, at the edge of what Eliot called a grimpen—and even though this isn’t really the Blitz, it’s still pretty scary – you can draw on memory. Carefully. So I did. I drew on the Alps. I drew on getting out of the train, and walking, and arriving in the mountain meadow, and on how incredibly beautiful the Matterhorn was, and how I felt so much Presence, so much conscious contact with a Higher Power. In part, because I came to believe i was there because she had a plan of goodness which included this experience, and that she had given me all the knowledge and power I needed to act in accordance with her intentions. And it was so worth it. Placing myself in that memory, I feel so open, so full, so sure that I had reached out and something had actually reached back. So, if that attitude, that sense, is not a habit, and is a major challenge to hold in my current circumstances and with my current resources, to hell with “be here now.” I know what works for me. I know what helps me dial down the drama. Yes, “under conditions that seem unpropitious,” dialing down the drama may be very hard, very full-time work. But you never know when doing that work may suddenly give you access to strengths others don’t have. You never know when you might be the one who can save the day. And, even if you can’t, remembering the times in the past, when you did, can keep you going. Because you never know. And anyway, even if you never help anyone else, you can have a higher power and you can serve her, and she is very clear about what she wants: dial down the drama, so that you can practice the attitude, and keep turning it into something like a habit, even if you never get all the way to habit. Even if, on your deathbed, it’s still work, still practice, rather than habit. Because you have her, “there is yet faith.” She says, you don’t know what I might be able to do with your weak measly practice that never seems to make it to habit. You don’t know what else you are cultivating at the same time. Maybe you will be faced with a heroic death can save the world and, because you have kept the faith, you will just know, and won’t hesitate. Who knows? Nobody knows. It isn’t over until it’s over. You may have one Yoda sentence in you and there may be one Luke Skywalker out there, and you may not meet her until the day before the revolution. If you die without this experience, there is also the possibility that you have already met Luke and spoken that sentence, and that may have been the moment that set off the chain reaction that eventually saves the world. PS: Along with the obvious references, I want to acknowledge the unattributed ones: Beckett, Gramsci, Binswanger, MacGilchrist, Wilson, and LeGuin. Sorry, but this is actually what happens when I write morning pages.

Thank you for this episode. I always appreciate when you host Seth and I learn so much from your conversations.

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My favorite part! Seth Godin: “Well, so the other one which is as big as that one is, I think authenticity is a crock, and I think authenticity is overrated and talked about far too much. The problem with authenticity is it’s selfish. Authenticity enables us to say whatever we want and if people don’t like it, well I was just being authentic. It is a ticket to self-absorbed inconsistency, and I don’t think anybody we serve wants that. I think what they want is consistency. I think they want us to make a promise and keep it, and the reason it’s called work, not my hobby is because I made a promise. I decided a really long time ago that I was going to be consistent, and it didn’t matter if in a moment, I felt like yelling at a customer service person, or going up on stage when I’m supposed to be adding energy and just taking energy instead. What I learned from that is the way we act determines how we feel way more often than the way we feel determines how we act.”

Just wanted to say I loved this interview with Seth Godin. Tim you are so awesome and loved!!!

Hey Tim Another great interview. No wonder, Seth is an all time favourite on the blog. I took a lot of notes and there is one thing that I cannot figure out. When talking about learning you mentioned „Patagocci“ a couple of times (not sure if I spelled that correctly. I could find any further reading on this way of learning and would appreciate any resource. Thanks from a fan of the first hour. Andreas

Tim. I keep coming back to this episode but not just for the feelings of enchantment when I listen to you both interacting. This time around, this “season of my life” (as the people who like to say things like to say); I keep coming back because of a startling resonance I felt with YOUR vulnerability. I have questions. Too many to ask just one. I saw a thread and I have an impulse to follow it to see what it unravels. But I worry about what it may unravel in me. When I look at who I am, it makes no sense that I might have that fear. I am no one to you, but I know myself a recklessly, insatiably curious human being. And I have questions.

thanks a lot

Thank you Tim for sharing such a great interview.

Thanks for this great conversation Tim and Seth. Loved the Elizabeth King quote "Process saves us form the poverty of intention" and the insight that writer's block is actually "fear of bad writing"! Both instantly actionable.

Hi, Andreas – I believe the word you're referring to is "pedagogy" (https://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/pedagogy). You can find all mentions of it in the transcript, found here: https://tim.blog/2020/10/29/seth-godin-the-practice-transcript/. Best, Team Tim Ferriss

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