No Egrets
The reblog blog of ritabuuk and devilrose. We actually like egrets.
My son's tattoo hurt me deeply ➔
When Tess Morgan's son came home with a tattoo, she was griefstricken. She knew her reaction was OTT (he's 21) but it signalled a change in their relationship
This is gold this, absolute gold, the most over the top melodramatic hysterical ridiculous thing I’ve ever read
This is actually so interesting to read- it’s from 2012 but its full of the same anxieties, even some of the same phrasing that many of the guardian’s later pieces on transness use. really hammers home how much of the terfism that emerged in the late 10s was middle class mothers angry at a loss of control over their adult children- whether that be their bodies or their friends or their opinions- and making that everyone’s problem because they have the power to do so
I thought I might share one of my new tattoos. A couple years ago, a dear friend and I coined the term “fish bag moment”
A fish bag moment might be sitting all alone in an empty new apartment after coming out and upending your life, or starting a new job in a brand new line of work because it’s closer to your dreams
It’s what happens when you take a leap of faith or make a hard decision for yourself, when the future is so hard to visualize and everything feels scary. You’re just a fish in a bag and you can’t see where you’re going
But you’re on your way to a bigger aquarium
Ugh a coworker I adore is leaving for a new job opportunity. She was talking about how she’s happy and excited, but also sad and scared and nervous. I was like “omg you’re having a fishbag moment! Those feelings are what this tattoo represents!”
She said “I don’t like this feeling why would you get that tattooed on you”
And I said “because it means you’re on your way to a bigger aquarium 😌”
She had to walk away bc she started crying lol, and then shouted “THAT WAS CUTE” at me from down the hall
