"This year's kinktober is: No Kinks You Freaks"

That's the vibe!

The post was deleted on Reddit but the comments remain. You should go read them. People are having a lot of fun.

Sadly as the rules are deleted i cant indulge in my morbid curiousity to see the rest of them

here are the rules and faq

and a bunch of highlights from those/other updates (in case of deletion) along with the prompts that often contradict the rules 🙊🙈

i enjoy the term "creator/consumer roleplay" which they've defined to mean "the author and people reading the fic":

your monster fucking MUST include the monster verbally consenting.

we're not banning any specific dynamics except the ones we think are evil bad wrongthink

right we're definitely not trying to get people to write/draw only content we approve of. except that you can be banned if you've engaged with content we don't approve of.

"protect creators and content-consumers" uh huh...

getting my face scanned to participate in a kinktober event

and of course, the 10/10 no notes kicker:

truly hope everyone's enjoying caitvi kinktober brought to you by mastercard™

also all courtesy of @guzzlingplastic:

1. a category i affectionately call "who wrote these rules visa or mastercard?" (a tweet that i do not have a screenshot of but please chime in if you can credit op!)

2. unironically being pro-nazi (the full essay has been deleted but apparently included fr citations) (as an educator i would kms if any of my students ever misunderstood this badly)

3. I never thought the leopards antis would eat MY face turn on ME

* i BELIEVE the response was from a DIFFERENT mod than the one called out in the first post

I would also like to add, the reason their “how to do CNC properly” rules are so elaborate and appear to conflict with some of the prompts, is because the mods find all CNC icky and they’ve bent over backwards trying to find the precise set of rules that makes kinks they find icky actually be okay.

Originally, CNC was banned entirely. The original prompt list was extremely vanilla (including hits like “orgasms” and “lovemaking”) and I’m assuming they got a decent bit of pushback in DMs over the original prompt list, because they later released an updated list of prompts. The updated prompt list is what was shown higher up in this post. Here’s the OG prompt list for anyone curious (sorry about quality, it was a screenshot):

... honey you just described a predator LOL

No, I said what I said. But thank you for providing an example of how this topic has become insufferable on the internet.

i am honestly burningly curious about how a 40 year old man who fucks around with college grads is not a predator

"College grad" is not a developmental stage, nor is it what I would describe a 25 year old as. I was 4 years out of college at 25. My mother had two children at 25. You can be a fucking congressman at 25.

There's a difference between a man who is immature and buys into misogynistic views of beauty and aging and one who is a predator. Also, many actual predators? Not losers and able to move through society pretty freely being seen as cool and the ideal, so conflating the two isn't helpful.

This is going to be my final response to any attempt at discourse. You're welcome to continue amongst yourselves.

also sometimes a 40 year old and a 25 year old just weirdly find each and it's a perfectly normal relationship - like all human relationships are complex and situational, it's so rarely an either/or thing let alone just one thing only

if a 40 year old dude only dates 25 year olds, DiCaprio style or something adjacent to it, then yeah he's a loser

if a 40 year old dude meets a 25 year old through social event or friends or whatever and they happen to hit it off and make a go of it, and this isn't some sort of reoccurring pattern for the guy, that's just a relationship with an age difference

being predatory means something specific, and man I agree w/ OP and really wish people just stopped ascribing it to any and all relationship dynamics they personally might not like

predator and groomer - two words that need to go up on the "can't use till you learn their meaning" shelf

Something I find really stressful is this seemingly endless creep of infantilisation and removal of autonomy from young people. Like, not to be all “in my dayyyy” about it, but… at 16, my friends and I were expected to be broadly responsible for our presence in the world. Most of us had jobs, we navigated public transport, looked after younger siblings. We were expected to make informed decisions about our future careers and our sexual partners. We were allowed to leave education and work full time (this was not necessarily good thing - I think increasing the school leaving age to 18 was broadly for the best). Most of us were smoking, or drinking, or both - again, not good things, but just facts - and many of us were sexually active. Many of the AFAB people I knew were on the pill. Legally, we could live independently, or get married with adult consent.

Legally (I live in the UK) we were not minors, although we inhabited an odd legal limbo until we turned 18, and we were certainly not “children”. Intellectually, socially, though, we were considered (young) adults, or at the most “older teenagers.” We were expected to read mostly adult books (rather than middle grade or YA), watch the news/read papers, watch mostly adult television.

And I do think we a bit under-protected, under-supported, and in some cases - neglected and financially exploited - and I’m not necessarily advocating that. But it did make us feel, I think, in charge of our own lives, capable and competent to make decisions.

At 16-17 my parents knew they could leave me alone overnight/for a couple of nights, and I wouldn’t starve or burn the house down. I felt comfortable getting cross country trains on my own, or booking and staying at a hotel (yes, with my boyfriend.)

Then there was this… creeping of sentiments that we were all Too Young to trouble our heads about certain things. A lot of it was good - more stringent licensing laws, raising the school leaving age, raising the minimum smoking age(!) - but some of the broader cultural stuff was… a bit patronising? Eg, the introduction of “New Adult” as a category of books aimed at 18-25 year olds, the way cartoons and books written for the 9-12 age group were being marketed as for the 12-15 age group, referring to late teens as “children,” etc etc.

Then, in 2008, there was the big financial crash and suddenly my generation were (broadly) robbed of all the usual markers of adulthood and success, meaning that we got ‘stuck’ in the lifestyles and modes our late teens/early 20s. And suddenly, all the emphasis shifted from social and legal protections for late teens/ younger adults, to legal restrictions on their freedoms/rights, and strange philosophical protections on the emotional states.

So, OF COURSE a 23 year old can’t buy a beer without carrying an ID card, and a 17 year old can’t have a crush on a 16 year old, but also, because you’re *children* you don’t need to live like adults. So the UK government got to save money by saying “18 isn’t a proper adult,” then “20 isn’t a proper adult,” and “25 isn’t a proper adult” because it meant they could refuse to give single occupancy housing benefit rates to people of those ages (I think they’ve raised it over 30 now.) Or by refusing to clamp down on exploitative temporary/zero hours contracts - because they’re just “temp jobs for young people!”, or by raising the retirement age because “60 is far too young to retire. You’re not a real adult until 35.”

And it means the discursive environment is such that you can claim that a 21 year old trans person is too young to make their own medical decisions, or a 15 year old is too young to consent to the contraceptive pill.

Meanwhile, they are not offering additional *protections* to these newly infantilised adults. 18 year olds are still encouraged to saddle themselves with enormous educational debt, or allowed to have credit cards, or expected to pay rent, or no longer receive child benefits. You still have to *work*. In fact, in the States, they’re looking to removed child employment restrictions - but that’s fine, because 20 year olds are being protected from making their own medical decisions, and adults get to say which books their teen kids are reading in school, and kids aren’t allowed to change their name or what they wear without parental consent.

We can see what these people are doing to the rights of children - so why are we being so complacent in expanding the definition of ‘child’?

Regardless - 25 is VERY CLEARLY an adult. At 25 I was married, had two kids, an overdraft, rent to pay, and experience of living in the world for 6 years. I had more in common with someone of 40 than I did with someone of 15. Hell, at*20* I had more in common with someone of 40 than someone of 15. Any sexual or relationship decisions you make at 25 are your own to make.

Of course there are likely to be power imbalances in a 15 year age gap - which is why most 25 year olds don’t date 40somethings - but not actually necessarily. And yeah, a 40 year old who only dates 20somethings is a skeeze - just like a 30 year old who routinely ingratiates themselves with rich 80 year olds is a skeeze.

But if any young people are reading this (doubt it)… your rights are much, much more important than your protections.

Yes, young people should be protected, but if someone claims they’re protecting you while denying you access to personal autonomy, financial stability, intellectual curiosity, or sexual self-determination because you’re “too young” to need, or understand those things… be very suspicious of their motives.

And if you’re legally an adult, ask yourself why you don’t feel comfortable defining yourself in those terms.

This thread is from 2023, and now with the Cass report we have seen the real, tangible danger that comes from infantilizing adults in their 20s.

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So if this passes, all messages, videos and images sent by someone in the EU would be scanned. I don't know what would happen if someone outside of the EU sends a message to someone in the EU.

However, if you are friends and family in the EU, all messages they send to you will be scanned. So yes, you could be affected by this even if you don't live here.

Note that you can send mails to MEPs (members of the European Parliament) if you aren't from the EU. The website up there has the email addresses of all of them and email templates in multiple languages.

@svenskjavel lista över Sveriges ledamöter:

Yeah, it's a euphemism because there's a lot of Westerners that have a completely skewed view of the war in Ukraine and have to be let down very, very gently. Ukraine is going to have "to give things up to Russia" because that's what happens when you start a war and then lose it. You'd think they'd teach you that at a fucking Ivy League school.

Oh, dear. Tumblr was full of baby tankies when russia first invaded Ukraine in 2014.

Those tankies grew up and grew out of their stupidity, but eleven years later, here's the next generation of edgy Western "communists" to celebrate genocide in Ukraine.

You're a dipshit and should kill yourself you nazi dicksucker.

Thank you.

No, I need to say more about this person.

They have an account that supports BLM, COVID measures, gay rights.

However, mention Ukraine, and then Ukrainians have to kill themselves because they're dicksuckers.

The Western far-left is no better than MAGA.