How to Be Perceived as High Value

Everyone wants to know how to be perceived as high value in dating.

What should I wear?
How should I look?
Should I wait to text back?
Should I act less interested?
Should I be harder to get?

And yes, presentation matters. Looking your best matters. Dressing well matters. Taking care of yourself matters.

But none of those things are what actually make someone high value.

Being high value is mostly about confidence. And confidence is communicated through behavior.

You can be wearing a $5,000 outfit and still communicate insecurity within five minutes of meeting someone.

You can also walk into a room wearing jeans and a T-shirt and immediately give off the energy of someone who knows exactly who they are.

After nearly a decade of matchmaking, I’ve noticed that the people who are perceived as the most desirable aren’t necessarily the richest, most beautiful or most accomplished people in the room.

They’re usually the people who don’t seem desperate to convince anyone of their value.

They already believe it.

One of the fastest ways to lower your perceived value is to continually pursue someone who is showing you that they’re not that interested.