Nectar of Devotion

“Your sex life should not feel depleting. Your sex life is supposed to give you more energy to sustain all that you do and create.”

Earlier this week we talked about the ways our sex life changes after having a baby, what to do about it and why cultivating a relationship with our own pleasure is a well-resourced Mother’s secret weapon.

Aside from being truly met by our beloved as this new version of ourselves; no longer the maiden but a fuller expression of the Feminine, we must also meet ourselves as new.

Each god and goddess in Hindu mythology (including the kamasutra, the book of Divine Love) has a consort, a partner, husband or wife. To cultivate an Inner Consort practice, is to tend to the relationship within ourselves and it may be the most intimate and important relationship we have. The sweetness that comes through these dedicated pleasure practices is the nectar of devotion.

This Valentines Day, the invitation I offer is to begin an Inner Consort practice, this is one of radical self-acceptance, expanding our capacity for pleasure & shifting out of masculine ‘doing’ mode and into a feminine enjoying mode.

I’ve got 5 very practical resources for you to kick off with right away.

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This is the ultimate ‘fall in love with yourself’ practice. There are innumerable physical benefits to following this self massage technique but maybe the biggest benefit is the Trust that begins to flourish between body and mind. If you have on-going injuries or illnesses, not feeling protected by your immune system, unable to decipher between fear and intuition; This Is For You.

Cultivate Passion and Compassion with this nurturing practice (can be as quick as 5 minutes) And although I don't demonstrate this in the video linked below, include breast and yoni massage as an integrated part of this self love practice.

Tutorial Here

Here is where we get witchy. Steam & wands.

If you’re not already steaming as part of your pre-menstrual pampering this is your sign to start. There are so many benefits (also incredible for post-pardum healing) Get your cauldron bubbling with these sacred herbs, roots and flowers & then sitting over the steam for 15 minutes. I like the blend linked here.

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As for wands and eggs, the famous Cervix Serpent is a beautiful de-armouring wand that I recommend alongside a yoni egg practice for all women I work with in the pre-conception portal.

Again, Use the code ALCHEMY FOR 10% off your wand here.

I actually have a whole podcast episode on Yoni Health > Listen Below

If you feel stuck in ‘doing mode’ and want to connect more deeply to your innate power to enjoy being both strong and soft I have a practice for you. It’s a 30 minute Feminine Flow that you can do daily, either in the morning or before sunset. It’s included at the end of this post.

A couple of years ago I went through The School of Embodied Pleasure with Bonnie Bliss & one of the biggest learnings for me was slowing down to actually enjoy and take pleasure in all of Life through our five senses. In this way we actually expand the definition of and our capacity to experience the fullness, vibrancy & beauty of Life.