Mansplaining to Men Part 1

Here’s a picture of a truck.

Do I have your attention? Okay, now listen.

I saw a video from a woman explaining how a good partner should celebrate their partner’s accomplishments and I got the impression it went over a lot of men’s heads, so here it is again restated in a way that is more digestible to the male intellectual pallet.

If the person you love accomplishes something, that’s a win for both of you, because you’re on the same team. You should congratulate them and celebrate that win together, as a team.

Them winning is not an L for you. It is not a call for you to try to outdo them or assert your dominance. Relationships are team sports. Your partner’s win is a W for team “us”. It’s a collaboration, not a competition. Your partner is not your opponent. Your job is not to outscore or outpoint them. Your job is motivation and celebration, because no one should be a bigger fan of team “us” than you.

In a competition, there’re winners and losers. You don’t want any losers on team “us”. You don’t want to lower team morale. Your job is to boost morale.

So, next time your partner accomplishes something at work, in the gym, in their hobbies, or family, break out the pom poms and megaphone and cheer your motherfucking ass off. Team “us” just scored another W.