No black woman writer in this culture can write "too much". Indeed, no woman writer can write "too much"...no woman has ever written enough. - bell hooks ...
At the end of last year, I made myself a promise: this would be the year I found joy again. I also promised I’d stop trying to turn every hobby into a side hustle before I had the chance to actually enjoy it. I decided to make this my focus because I finally felt like I was in a good enough place with my adulting responsibilities to let Loose and Just Live™. Fast forward to present day, nearly…
One of my worse personality quirks is getting way too hype about starting something new only to very quickly burn out because I went all in too fast. I call it a quirk because if I called it a failing I’d get depressed. So in an effort to do this less, I’ve come up with a few guiding principles for how I’d like to approach my 30s. Since my birthday is on the 13th day of March, I came up with 13…
Hi there! After my birthday post went vIrAl (read: I am soooo kidding. Thanks for all the birthday love!) I wanted to come back on and continue the theme of talking about what I want to get out of my first year of my 30s. Birthdays for me often feel like the true start to the year and I feel particularly inspired to set new goals in the Spring time. So I spent some time brainstorming my goals and…
Today the title of this blog officially expires because I turned 30 today. One year ago I bid a brief farewell to my 28th year and made a couple of really ambitious statements about how 29 was going to play out. Not everything went as planned, but last year really was one of the best years of my life so maybe not all plans are completely necessary (who knew?). Year 29 will forever be known as the…
Sometimes when I don't have the right words for something, I call on my inner 3-year-old who always knows how to say exactly what I've become too much of an adult to. One such moment arrived earlier this week when I found myself at the end of another work day feeling depleted and fed up. Why? Well because I needed to take a creative poo. Whenever I go long periods of time without actually making…
INFO I think this the winner for what I want to title these kinds of posts. I knew I’d figure it out evetually! This week went by in a bit of a scattered-brain blur and I had to check multiple times that it was really the 3rd week of 2026. I find that I’m already struggling to remember what I did with my 2 weeks off over the holiday break because it feels like so long ago. Thankfully it’s a three…
A few posts ago, I wrote about how, instead of just deleting old ideas or half-finished projects, I hung on to them by archiving them in different workspaces within Notion. Today, after a long battle with myself over whether or not I would return to using Notion to help keep my thoughts organized, I started to go through the many pages I had created and archived over the years. I was startled by…
“The self is not something ready-made, but something in continuous formation through choice of action.” — John Dewey Not to be dramatic, but writing this post signals a dramatic turn in my life. What those on in the world of trading would call an episodic pivot . To anyone quietly observing from outside, the last 25 days of blog posts may seem unimportant. “Big whoop! Someone posted to their blog…
It’s the second Christmas Eve without my grandma and how much I miss her seems to have grown exponentially alongside the joy and festivities of the holidays. Today my grief feels like I’m carrying a thirty ton bowling ball around my neck. It is often preached that as time goes on, your grief lessens. That’s a crock of shit. Your grief takes naps. Your grief misses its exit and is delayed. Your…
I had a lot of fun writing yesterday's round-up so I wanted to keep things going today by doing a wrap up of the best of all the tv shows, movies, and tools I used this year. I love reading lists like this from other people and always said I would write one of my own one day but never felt like I had anything interesting to say. Good thing I don't think like that anymore . So without further ado,…