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Breadboard — made of plastic foam and metal. A clean empty slate with a fixed number of holes. You can plug things in as you wish and construct a circuit. When you are finished, you can pluck all of them away and reuse the breadboard for another test. The first time I saw one of […] The post Breadboards appeared first on Trans Survivors .
Since before I was born, my body has been rejected. I didn’t have to declare a trans identity to face judgement. I didn’t have to do, nor say, anything; merely be in the process of coming into existence. Not only was I going to be born physically disabled in my bones, I also had a […] The post Reclaiming my Disabled Trans Body appeared first on Trans Survivors .
Sex can be any number of things – a fun thing to do, a way to connect with others or yourself, a release, a meaningful part of a relationship, an added bonus, a hobby, and so much more. It can add to our lives, whether it has intimate meaning or not. It can also bring challenges, fear, trauma […] The post Alternatives to sex for when sex isn’t what you feel up to appeared first on Trans Survivors…
The world is pretty tough these days. Every day has a new form of chaos and upheaval. Every day seems to bring with it less certainty and more unrest. – At least that’s how it feels for me a lot these past few years. A few months ago, my social media feed decided I needed to see a how-to-fold-socks video. Like many of us, part of how I’ve dealt […] The post The simplicity of socks appeared first…
Consent education often focuses on asking for consent and what is or is not consent. For example, consent is an enthusiastic yes – anything else is a no. It’s critical that people learn to communicate with each other – to be able to understand the differences between yes, no, maybe, not right now, and the thousand other ways that people may […] The post Accepting a ‘No’ appeared first on Trans…
As someone who has cried a lot during and after sex, I immediately checked out Sorry I Keep Crying During Sex by Jesse James Rose when I saw it at the library. Then I learned the author is trans/nonbinary and the book is also about dementia. It’s like it was made for me. The audiobook is beautifully read by the author. Sorry I Keep […] The post Book Review: Sorry I keep crying during sex appeared…
The Trans Rights Read-a-thon is an annual event from March 17-31st, the two weeks leading up to Trans Day of Visibility. The Read-a-thon encourages people to read books by and about trans/nonbinary people and donate to trans organizations. This year, Emil (FORGE) volunteered with the Read-a-thon and Oliver (LGBT National Help Center) reached out to the read-a-thon about collaborating around mental…
I’ve started to get “misgendered” at the airport again. I put “misgendered” in quotes, because I’m not entirely sure how I want to be gendered (by strangers) anymore. The TSA agent called me “ma’am” before I removed my mask for facial ID, and “sir” afterward. I received an uncomfortable pat-down when my crotch was flagged […] The post Contradictions appeared first on Trans Survivors .
I’m tired of shutting people out. I’m tired of cutting people off. I’m tired of ghosting people. I’m tired of people ghosting me. I want relationships where we work through the hard stuff. Where we are committed to each other even when we fuck up and say hurtful shit. How can I do this? How […] The post Learning to Stay appeared first on Trans Survivors .
“Ugh, Jay left their dishes in the sink again,” my housemate said to me. I am not Jay. I am not, nor have I ever been responsible for Jay’s behavior. Yet the first thing that my brain says to me is, “Wow, you fucked up again. This is all your fault. What’s wrong with you?” Ouch, right? Fifteen years later, […] The post Living with people and living with trauma appeared first on Trans Survivors .