Reality Check: You think you're changing, but you are not (The realities of change)

You think you're changing. You're not. Most of what people call growth is just a new way to avoid pain. Your body is wired for survival, homeostasis. Change registers as a threat. So when your relationship fails and you try again, only to repeat the same patterns with new fears layered on top, that's not growth. When you overtrain, get injured, then pull back and call it wisdom, that's not growth…