# #dementia (blogs) — RSS Amplifier Recent posts from the 1 feeds in the RSS Amplifier directory that cover #dementia. Page: Feed: --- ## [Sitting in the sun](https://whathappened.family.blog/2026/08/24/sitting-in-the-sun/) _2026-08-24 · TheRealTamara · this is our life_ Yesterday, I was thinking about what it would be like spending the afternoon on a river- facing bench across the 78th Street bridge. These were late night thoughts and late night sadnesses. There was sadness in the thought; I couldn’t do so without missing Burt who frequently sat with me on that bench. It had Continue reading "Sitting in the sun" ## [On the side](https://whathappened.family.blog/2026/08/24/on-the-side-2/) _2026-08-24 · TheRealTamara · this is our life_ Things happen as we get engrossed and distracted by caregiving. I managed to misplace (a polite way to say lose) our marriage certificate. I feel a lot better about it since Googling that replacement can be done easily and online. Looking for the missing item also gave me an opportunity to sort through documents. The rearrangement Continue reading "On the side" ## [In the papers](https://whathappened.family.blog/2026/08/23/in-the-papers/) _2026-08-23 · TheRealTamara · this is our life_ How did you meet your significant other? Not in the funny papers as my comic id wants to say, but in NY Press, a printed news sheet. It was free, found in little boxes around town. The meet your mate or date section was also free. In short, I answered Burt’s personal ad. He called Continue reading "In the papers" ## [Best, better, best](https://whathappened.family.blog/2026/08/21/best-better-best/) _2026-08-21 · TheRealTamara · this is our life_ If you could relive one day from your past, which day would it be and why? The day Burt and I went on our 2nd date. A day that led us to the many years we had together. ## [Back to the “from before”](https://whathappened.family.blog/2026/08/17/back-to-the-from-before-2/) _2026-08-17 · TheRealTamara · this is our life_ Here’s the story of the picture \[L\] with the Blues Brothers vibe; I’ve shared this at length with A. who was curious about this photo in my pictorial. It’s a memory from the 2nd year that Burt and I were together. We were invited to party for Judith E’s birthday–who was married to Jim M, Continue reading "Back to the “from before”" ## [Stay calm](https://whathappened.family.blog/2026/08/14/stay-calm-2/) _2026-08-14 · TheRealTamara · this is our life_ My role as a caregiver to a person with \[Lewy Body\] dementia demands I get acquainted with psychosis. A calm and contained demeanor is preferred to one in which I freak out. In a tour of an exhibit in which art and psychiatry crossed paths, it became clear to me that the psychotic makes me Continue reading "Stay calm" ## [Writing group](https://whathappened.family.blog/2026/08/14/writing-group/) _2026-08-14 · TheRealTamara · this is our life_ Focus on yourself. Your loved one will never get short shrift under your watch. The gaze of self-care is usually a bit myopic. Chances are that you will draw the shorter end of the stick as you walk the journey with your person. You will learn to advocate. You will be aware of signs and Continue reading "Writing group" ## [Burt’s on top of it](https://whathappened.family.blog/2026/08/12/burts-on-top-of-it-2/) _2026-08-12 · TheRealTamara · this is our life_ From August 2024 The “job search” seems to have ended in a mystery job. Mystery to me, at least, but it is vague to Burt as well. He wants me to get him business cards (albeit they’re round, as he describes them). He assigns numbers to his staff, and I am #1 tomorrow, then #2 Continue reading "Burt’s on top of it" ## [Pictured](https://whathappened.family.blog/2026/08/05/pictured/) _2026-08-05 · TheRealTamara · this is our life_ There was a box I had labeled pictures. It was an activity box I had put together for Burt. Actually a box of memory for us to look at what life had been like, recently, and in our past. I opened it yesterday and left the albums out for me to peruse. There we were Continue reading "Pictured" ## [Curiouser](https://whathappened.family.blog/2026/08/05/curiouser/) _2026-08-05 · TheRealTamara · this is our life_ What are you curious about? You, you have caught my attentionAnd piqued my curiosity. What is itYou do? Why are you going so fast? Is there a race in your mind to whichI remain uninvited? Where is it you go?Are you in a hurry? Silly question. You are. Speed slowed automobileDevelopment. It was a distraction. Continue reading "Curiouser" ## [Real SIMs for AI Agents (Sponsored)](https://crawlproof.com/a/fv5xTK4jyXHk) _2026-08-05 · **Sponsored**_ Pass 2FA and verifications with real carrier numbers via our API. ## [The last months](https://whathappened.family.blog/2026/07/25/the-last-months/) _2026-07-25 · TheRealTamara · this is our life_ This morning, I was rereading posts from the days and months before Burt died. It’s pretty clear that I had been aware since November, around his birthday, of how much he had begun to decline. This was unlike the dips we’d gone through before. There were hopeful posts expecting further help for Burt’s care, starting Continue reading "The last months" ## [We are humble: patience](https://whathappened.family.blog/2026/07/24/we-are-humble-patience/) _2026-07-24 · TheRealTamara · this is our life_ This is not a brag Caregiving carries with it a grand responsibility. Rather than make us grandiose, it humbles us. One of my caregiver friends is as thrilled by the purple umbrella she gifted herself as a diva is by pearls, champagne and fancy chocolates. No diva, but a queen of caring. My own experience Continue reading "We are humble: patience" ## [Love-and-marriage.2](https://whathappened.family.blog/2026/07/20/love-and-marriage-2/) _2026-07-20 · TheRealTamara · this is our life_ We’ve talked about love during caregiving, but I have not been forthright about sex. We don’t talk about that in polite society as my mother would assert. Let’s be honest, LBD destroys intimacy. A visiting carer who came by to see Burt was not circumspect. She suggested I should connect with someone in circumstances like Continue reading "Love-and-marriage.2" ## [Good fortune](https://whathappened.family.blog/2026/07/10/good-fortune/) _2026-07-10 · TheRealTamara · this is our life_ What’s a chapter of your life you’d title “The Hard Years” — and what got you through it? The obvious answer would be the journey I took with Burt once he was diagnosed with Lewy Body. The journey, as it turns out, had so many positives. It brought out a side of me I hadn’t Continue reading "Good fortune"