# secure self (podcasts) — RSS Amplifier Recent posts from the 1 feeds in the RSS Amplifier directory that cover secure self. Page: Feed: --- ## [The Avoidant's Biggest Lie: "I'm Trapped"](https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/letstalkattachments/episodes/The-Avoidants-Biggest-Lie-Im-Trapped-e3n586a) _2026-08-08 · Jessica Da Silva, LMFT · LET’S TALK ATTACHMENTS_ Why does healthy love sometimes feel suffocating? In this episode, we're exploring one of the biggest misconceptions behind avoidant attachment: the belief that feeling trapped automatically means something is wrong with the relationship. Together, we'll unpack how childhood experiences, attachment wounds, and our nervous system can cause us to mistake closeness for control, compromise for… [Listen](https://anchor.fm/s/c666bf4/podcast/play/123952778/https%3A%2F%2Fd3ctxlq1ktw2nl.cloudfront.net%2Fstaging%2F2026-7-8%2F429472611-44100-2-5ffe19f4868ae.m4a) ## [The Ugly Truth About Healing Attachment Wounds](https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/letstalkattachments/episodes/The-Ugly-Truth-About-Healing-Attachment-Wounds-e3lb0l6) _2026-06-26 · Jessica Da Silva, LMFT · LET’S TALK ATTACHMENTS_ You finally meet someone who's consistent, emotionally available, and genuinely cares about you... so why does your nervous system want to run? In this episode, I break down why healing attachment wounds often feels more uncomfortable before it feels secure. We'll explore what's happening in your brain and nervous system, why healthy love can feel threatening when it's unfamiliar, and how to stop… [Listen](https://anchor.fm/s/c666bf4/podcast/play/122044518/https%3A%2F%2Fd3ctxlq1ktw2nl.cloudfront.net%2Fstaging%2F2026-5-26%2F426900386-44100-2-2ec97992cf7cb.m4a) ## [What God Taught Me About Secure Attachment](https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/letstalkattachments/episodes/What-God-Taught-Me-About-Secure-Attachment-e3kpb0r) _2026-06-14 · Jessica Da Silva, LMFT · LET’S TALK ATTACHMENTS_ In this episode, I share what God taught me about secure attachment, why people will inevitably let us down, and how finding security in something greater than ourselves can transform the way we experience love and relationships.💛 Just getting started? Check out the Secure Self Toolkit for attachment rewiring meditations, communication scripts, a trigger guide, and practical tools to help you… [Listen](https://anchor.fm/s/c666bf4/podcast/play/121465307/https%3A%2F%2Fd3ctxlq1ktw2nl.cloudfront.net%2Fstaging%2F2026-5-14%2F426122571-44100-2-c6b3569c06406.m4a) ## [Lessons From Dating an Avoidant and an Anxious Partner](https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/letstalkattachments/episodes/Lessons-From-Dating-an-Avoidant-and-an-Anxious-Partner-e3kj2vb) _2026-06-10 · Jessica Da Silva, LMFT · LET’S TALK ATTACHMENTS_ In this episode, I share the lessons I've learned from dating both avoidant and anxious partners, how each relationship highlighted different areas for growth, and why the goal isn't hyper-independence or over-dependence—but healthy interdependence.If you enjoyed this episode and are ready to start creating healthier patterns in your love life, check out my Secure Self Toolkit, filled with… [Listen](https://anchor.fm/s/c666bf4/podcast/play/121260459/https%3A%2F%2Fd3ctxlq1ktw2nl.cloudfront.net%2Fstaging%2F2026-5-10%2F425849674-44100-2-55c2fb3625858.m4a) ## [Why Anxious + Avoidant Relationships Can Work](https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/letstalkattachments/episodes/Why-Anxious--Avoidant-Relationships-Can-Work-e3kc4ge) _2026-06-05 · Jessica Da Silva, LMFT · LET’S TALK ATTACHMENTS_ Are anxious and avoidant relationships really doomed, or have we oversimplified the conversation? In this episode, Jessica explores why attachment styles alone don't determine relationship success, the difference between unhealthy and challenging relationships, and how self-awareness, communication, and growth can help anxious and avoidant partners create a healthier dynamic together. 💛 Work with… [Listen](https://anchor.fm/s/c666bf4/podcast/play/121032654/https%3A%2F%2Fd3ctxlq1ktw2nl.cloudfront.net%2Fstaging%2F2026-5-5%2F425546299-44100-2-bbc0a80be0e5.m4a) ## [The Paradox of Avoidant Healing: Learning to Lean Into Intimacy Despite the Fear](https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/letstalkattachments/episodes/The-Paradox-of-Avoidant-Healing-Learning-to-Lean-Into-Intimacy-Despite-the-Fear-e3j831a) _2026-05-12 · Jessica Da Silva, LMFT · LET’S TALK ATTACHMENTS_ In this episode, we explore the paradox of avoidant healing and why intimacy can feel both deeply comforting and deeply threatening at the same time. We talk about: why avoidant attachers often push away the very connection they desire the fear of dependency, vulnerability, and loss how hyper-independence has disconnected many of us from healthy emotional reliance why intimacy is so much more than… [Listen](https://anchor.fm/s/c666bf4/podcast/play/119851498/https%3A%2F%2Fd3ctxlq1ktw2nl.cloudfront.net%2Fstaging%2F2026-4-12%2F423967203-44100-2-d3cc7f1b76646.m4a) ## [Building Connection From Stability, Not Emotional Need](https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/letstalkattachments/episodes/Building-Connection-From-Stability--Not-Emotional-Need-e3i7232) _2026-04-21 · Jessica Da Silva, LMFT · LET’S TALK ATTACHMENTS_ Why do we crave connection so deeply… yet feel so unstable in relationships? In this episode, I dive into the difference between seeking love from emotional need versus a grounded, secure place within yourself. I share my personal journey—from feeling anxious, reactive, and lost in relationships to developing what I now call the Secure Self —and how this shift changed everything. We’ll explore how… [Listen](https://anchor.fm/s/c666bf4/podcast/play/118769186/https%3A%2F%2Fd3ctxlq1ktw2nl.cloudfront.net%2Fstaging%2F2026-3-21%2F422486022-44100-2-939b50f74125c.m4a) ## [The Avoidant Experience: Love, Numbness & Inner Conflict With Bilnita Armstead](https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/letstalkattachments/episodes/The-Avoidant-Experience-Love--Numbness--Inner-Conflict-With-Bilnita-Armstead-e3h3v0b) _2026-03-29 · Jessica Da Silva, LMFT · LET’S TALK ATTACHMENTS_ In this episode, I sit down with Bilnita Armstead, a listener of the podcast, who shares her experience navigating a dismissive/fearful avoidant attachment style. We talk about how early relationship patterns, often learned from our parents, shaped her view of love and connection, and how getting hurt in relationships led her to become emotionally numb and avoidant. She opens up about the… [Listen](https://anchor.fm/s/c666bf4/podcast/play/117619147/https%3A%2F%2Fd3ctxlq1ktw2nl.cloudfront.net%2Fstaging%2F2026-2-29%2F420958014-44100-2-5eafa902c4feb.m4a) ## [The Attachment Rollercoaster: How to Feel Without Losing Control](https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/letstalkattachments/episodes/The-Attachment-Rollercoaster-How-to-Feel-Without-Losing-Control-e3gna8c) _2026-03-20 · Jessica Da Silva, LMFT · LET’S TALK ATTACHMENTS_ In this episode, we explore why love can feel like an emotional rollercoaster—full of intense highs and painful lows. You’ll learn how different attachment styles shape your reactions in relationships and, more importantly, how to stay grounded, self-regulate, and feel deeply without losing yourself in the process. Learn about 1-1 Attachment Coaching with Jessica here. [Listen](https://anchor.fm/s/c666bf4/podcast/play/117204684/https%3A%2F%2Fd3ctxlq1ktw2nl.cloudfront.net%2Fstaging%2F2026-2-20%2F420400258-44100-2-f98526ede3c7e.m4a) ## [One OS for your AI workforce (Sponsored)](https://crawlproof.com/a/Dq7Ut3mUKRp5) _2026-03-20 · **Sponsored**_ Build, direct, and supervise an AI workforce from a single operating workspace. ## [Feeling Like You’re the Problem in an Anxious–Avoidant Relationship](https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/letstalkattachments/episodes/Feeling-Like-Youre-the-Problem-in-an-AnxiousAvoidant-Relationship-e3fifq8) _2026-02-24 · Jessica Da Silva, LMFT · LET’S TALK ATTACHMENTS_ In this episode, we unpack why anxious attachers often feel like they’re “too much” in relationships — especially when paired with avoidants. I break down how this dynamic creates a distorted sense of responsibility, why you’re not actually the problem, and how unmet needs drive anxious expression. We’ll also cover how to find balance, when it’s time to walk away, and what both anxious and… [Listen](https://anchor.fm/s/c666bf4/podcast/play/115997960/https%3A%2F%2Fd3ctxlq1ktw2nl.cloudfront.net%2Fstaging%2F2026-1-24%2F418761081-44100-2-f4377c011edd1.m4a)