don't give unsolicited feedback

I left work today feeling pretty annoyed and, behind my annoyance, hurt and insecure. Near the end of the workday, I was chatting with a coworker and was commiserating about [a specific work-related task]. I was just trying to complain about [the specific work-related task] to someone who also has experience with [the task] and understands its unique challenges. But, out of nowhere, she says,…