it's not about you

Yesterday, I wrote about my frustration and hurt with a coworker who gave me unsolicited feedback about my work . After processing it with my partner and writing about it on this blog, I was reminded of a valuable lesson I've learned in therapy: what others say or think about me is not about me. As one of our greatest living thinkers, RuPaul, says: What other people think of me is none of my…