# overbay (audio feeds) — RSS Amplifier Recent posts from the 1 feeds in the RSS Amplifier directory that cover overbay. Page: Feed: --- ## [Taking the Long Way Home: Homer as Your Therapist, The Odyssey as Your Map](https://podcast.show/the_virtual_couch/episode/155012094/) _2026-08-14 · Tony Overbay LMFT · The Virtual Couch_ Emotional maturity takes the long way home, and Homer's Odyssey has been quietly saying so for 2,800 years. Underneath Christopher Nolan's new adaptation sits a poem that Tony thinks is one of the best pieces of therapy literature ever written, and almost nobody reads it that way. The monsters aren't the point — they're the muse. Every obstacle Odysseus meets is asking whether he's willing to… [Listen](https://media.blubrry.com/the_virtual_couch/mc.blubrry.com/the_virtual_couch/VIRTUALCOU-2026-08-14-663.mp3?awCollectionId=505600&awEpisodeId=12203675&aw_0_azn.pgenre=Health+%26+Fitness&aw_0_1st.ri=blubrry&aw_0_azn.pcountry=US&aw_0_azn.planguage=en&cat_exclude=IAB1-8%2CIAB1-9%2CIAB7-41%2CIAB8-5%2CIAB8-18%2CIAB11-4%2CIAB23%2CIAB24%2CIAB25%2CIAB26&aw_0_cnt.rss=https%3A%2F%2Ffeeds.blubrry.com%2Ffeeds%2Fthe_virtual_couch.xml) ## [“Killed Them All, Of Course": The Mind of Robert Durst w/Attorney Kate](https://podcast.show/the_virtual_couch/episode/154961245/) _2026-08-06 · Tony Overbay LMFT · The Virtual Couch_ Content warning: This episode includes discussion of homicide, dismemberment, and domestic violence. Listener discretion advised. Robert Durst confessed on a hot mic — but the real story is watching a man confabulate in real time, for decades, and nearly get away with it. In the first-ever Murder on the Couch guest episode, Tony is joined by his friend Kate, a civil attorney and lifelong true… [Listen](https://media.blubrry.com/the_virtual_couch/mc.blubrry.com/the_virtual_couch/VIRTUALCOU-2026-08-06-662.mp3?awCollectionId=505600&awEpisodeId=12192208&aw_0_azn.pgenre=Health+%26+Fitness&aw_0_1st.ri=blubrry&aw_0_azn.pcountry=US&aw_0_azn.planguage=en&cat_exclude=IAB1-8%2CIAB1-9%2CIAB7-41%2CIAB8-5%2CIAB8-18%2CIAB11-4%2CIAB23%2CIAB24%2CIAB25%2CIAB26&aw_0_cnt.rss=https%3A%2F%2Ffeeds.blubrry.com%2Ffeeds%2Fthe_virtual_couch.xml) ## [What If You're Not the Problem You Think You Are in Your Relationship?](https://podcast.show/the_virtual_couch/episode/154350886/) _2026-07-14 · Tony Overbay LMFT · The Virtual Couch_ What if the reason difficult conversations feel so impossible isn’t because you’re too sensitive, too anxious, or bad at communicating? What if you’ve spent years trying to find the perfect words—only to have your questions dismissed, your feelings turned against you, or the conversation somehow become about everything you did wrong? In this crossover episode of The Virtual Couch and Waking Up to… [Listen](https://media.blubrry.com/the_virtual_couch/mc.blubrry.com/the_virtual_couch/VIRTUALCOU-2026-07-14-661.mp3?awCollectionId=505600&awEpisodeId=12166218&aw_0_azn.pgenre=Health+%26+Fitness&aw_0_1st.ri=blubrry&aw_0_azn.pcountry=US&aw_0_azn.planguage=en&cat_exclude=IAB1-8%2CIAB1-9%2CIAB7-41%2CIAB8-5%2CIAB8-18%2CIAB11-4%2CIAB23%2CIAB24%2CIAB25%2CIAB26&aw_0_cnt.rss=https%3A%2F%2Ffeeds.blubrry.com%2Ffeeds%2Fthe_virtual_couch.xml) ## [What Happens When You Stop Needing to Be Right - Certainty, Curiosity, and Emotional Immaturity](https://podcast.show/the_virtual_couch/episode/154105577/) _2026-06-23 · Tony Overbay LMFT · The Virtual Couch_ Why does certainty feel safer than curiosity—and why does that quietly run so many of our relationships? In this Q&A crossover, Tony answers three listener questions that sound completely unrelated—a spouse who looked through a phone without asking, someone who keeps pulling conversations back to themselves, and why confident, certain voices dominate public life—then reveals the single thread… [Listen](https://media.blubrry.com/the_virtual_couch/mc.blubrry.com/the_virtual_couch/VIRTUALCOU-2026-06-23-660.mp3?awCollectionId=505600&awEpisodeId=12143035&aw_0_azn.pgenre=Health+%26+Fitness&aw_0_1st.ri=blubrry&aw_0_azn.pcountry=US&aw_0_azn.planguage=en&cat_exclude=IAB1-8%2CIAB1-9%2CIAB7-41%2CIAB8-5%2CIAB8-18%2CIAB11-4%2CIAB23%2CIAB24%2CIAB25%2CIAB26&aw_0_cnt.rss=https%3A%2F%2Ffeeds.blubrry.com%2Ffeeds%2Fthe_virtual_couch.xml) ## [What You Don't Know You Don't Know About Meditation (Hint: You Can’t Stop Thoughts or Clear Your Mind!)](https://podcast.show/the_virtual_couch/episode/153965424/) _2026-06-12 · Tony Overbay LMFT · The Virtual Couch_ Mindfulness isn't about emptying your mind or finally feeling calm—and believing it was is probably why you quit. Your emotions fire before your thinking brain ever catches up, which means most of your reactions—the defensiveness, the cravings, the snap judgments—are already in motion before you "decide" anything. In this conversation, Tony unpacks the neuroscience behind that gap and the… [Listen](https://media.blubrry.com/the_virtual_couch/mc.blubrry.com/the_virtual_couch/VIRTUALCOU-2026-06-12-659.mp3?awCollectionId=505600&awEpisodeId=12130824&aw_0_azn.pgenre=Health+%26+Fitness&aw_0_1st.ri=blubrry&aw_0_azn.pcountry=US&aw_0_azn.planguage=en&cat_exclude=IAB1-8%2CIAB1-9%2CIAB7-41%2CIAB8-5%2CIAB8-18%2CIAB11-4%2CIAB23%2CIAB24%2CIAB25%2CIAB26&aw_0_cnt.rss=https%3A%2F%2Ffeeds.blubrry.com%2Ffeeds%2Fthe_virtual_couch.xml) ## [Murder on the Couch: When "I Did It For You" Is a Lie](https://podcast.show/the_virtual_couch/episode/153943823/) _2026-06-04 · Tony Overbay LMFT · The Virtual Couch_ A heads-up before you press play: this is a bonus crossover from my true crime podcast, Murder on the Couch, dropping into your Virtual Couch / Waking Up to Narcissism feed. It's heavier than usual and opens with a disturbing familicide case that I don't sugarcoat, so if that's not where you are right now, it's completely okay to sit this one out and come back when you're ready. If you stay, I use… [Listen](https://media.blubrry.com/the_virtual_couch/mc.blubrry.com/the_virtual_couch/VIRTUALCOU-2026-06-04-658.mp3?awCollectionId=505600&awEpisodeId=12120176&aw_0_azn.pgenre=Health+%26+Fitness&aw_0_1st.ri=blubrry&aw_0_azn.pcountry=US&aw_0_azn.planguage=en&cat_exclude=IAB1-8%2CIAB1-9%2CIAB7-41%2CIAB8-5%2CIAB8-18%2CIAB11-4%2CIAB23%2CIAB24%2CIAB25%2CIAB26&aw_0_cnt.rss=https%3A%2F%2Ffeeds.blubrry.com%2Ffeeds%2Fthe_virtual_couch.xml) ## [The Validation Paradox: Why Reassurance Can Feel Lonely](https://podcast.show/the_virtual_couch/episode/153883749/) _2026-05-15 · Tony Overbay LMFT · The Virtual Couch_ Your partner said all the right things. So why do you feel MORE alone than before you opened up? Welcome to positive invalidation. That strange ache—being reassured into invisibility—has a name. It's what happens when "you're so good at your job, don't even worry about it" lands like a door quietly closing on what you actually feel. In this episode, Tony Overbay unpacks the science of validation,… [Listen](https://media.blubrry.com/the_virtual_couch/mc.blubrry.com/the_virtual_couch/VIRTUALCOU-2026-05-15-657.mp3?awCollectionId=505600&awEpisodeId=12096980&aw_0_azn.pgenre=Health+%26+Fitness&aw_0_1st.ri=blubrry&aw_0_azn.pcountry=US&aw_0_azn.planguage=en&cat_exclude=IAB1-8%2CIAB1-9%2CIAB7-41%2CIAB8-5%2CIAB8-18%2CIAB11-4%2CIAB23%2CIAB24%2CIAB25%2CIAB26&aw_0_cnt.rss=https%3A%2F%2Ffeeds.blubrry.com%2Ffeeds%2Fthe_virtual_couch.xml) ## [It's Not About the Dishes - Trojan Horses Hiding in Every Marriage](https://podcast.show/the_virtual_couch/episode/153849142/) _2026-04-30 · Tony Overbay LMFT · The Virtual Couch_ The dishwasher fight you've had a thousand times? Or is it about the laundry, where you’re going to eat, making the bed, and cleaning the kitchen? The truth is, it’s never really been about the dishwasher (or laundry, eating, making the bed, etc). Couples therapist Tony Overbay walks through Jack and Jill, a 25-year marriage stuck in a low-grade war over how to load the dishes, and reveals what… [Listen](https://media.blubrry.com/the_virtual_couch/mc.blubrry.com/the_virtual_couch/VIRTUALCOU-2026-04-30-656.mp3?awCollectionId=505600&awEpisodeId=12077645&aw_0_azn.pgenre=Health+%26+Fitness&aw_0_1st.ri=blubrry&aw_0_azn.pcountry=US&aw_0_azn.planguage=en&cat_exclude=IAB1-8%2CIAB1-9%2CIAB7-41%2CIAB8-5%2CIAB8-18%2CIAB11-4%2CIAB23%2CIAB24%2CIAB25%2CIAB26&aw_0_cnt.rss=https%3A%2F%2Ffeeds.blubrry.com%2Ffeeds%2Fthe_virtual_couch.xml) ## [You Can’t Cram for the Test of Life - Dr. Mark Redford on Flossing, Faking It, and Why Habits Never Lie](https://podcast.show/the_virtual_couch/episode/153814596/) _2026-04-16 · Tony Overbay LMFT · The Virtual Couch_ You lie to your dentist. You lie in therapy. And here's the uncomfortable truth — the patterns you think you're hiding are hiding nothing. Tony Overbay, LMFT, sits down with friend and dentist Dr. Mark Redford to unpack one of the most fascinating overlaps between dentistry and human psychology: impression management — and why you simply cannot cram for the test of life. From the dental chair to… [Listen](https://media.blubrry.com/the_virtual_couch/mc.blubrry.com/the_virtual_couch/VIRTUALCOU-2026-04-16-655.mp3?awCollectionId=505600&awEpisodeId=12059972&aw_0_azn.pgenre=Health+%26+Fitness&aw_0_1st.ri=blubrry&aw_0_azn.pcountry=US&aw_0_azn.planguage=en&cat_exclude=IAB1-8%2CIAB1-9%2CIAB7-41%2CIAB8-5%2CIAB8-18%2CIAB11-4%2CIAB23%2CIAB24%2CIAB25%2CIAB26&aw_0_cnt.rss=https%3A%2F%2Ffeeds.blubrry.com%2Ffeeds%2Fthe_virtual_couch.xml) ## [Accept your Doppler invite (Sponsored)](https://crawlproof.com/a/vnLjePY3ZNA4) _2026-04-16 · **Sponsored**_ Create your Doppler account using the invite code you received. ## [They Said All the Right Things (and Nothing Changed): The Anxious-Avoidant Trap w/Mackie Overbay](https://podcast.show/the_virtual_couch/episode/153773208/) _2026-03-31 · Tony Overbay LMFT · The Virtual Couch_ Why do the same conversations keep "resolving" without anything actually changing? Tony and his daughter Mackie unpack what they call "mouth sounds"—when someone says all the right words, uses the right tone, even touches your hand, and you walk away thinking this time it's different… but it never is. This episode dives deep into the anxious-avoidant attachment cycle and why your nervous system… [Listen](https://media.blubrry.com/the_virtual_couch/mc.blubrry.com/the_virtual_couch/VIRTUALCOU-2026-03-31-654.mp3?awCollectionId=505600&awEpisodeId=12040706&aw_0_azn.pgenre=Health+%26+Fitness&aw_0_1st.ri=blubrry&aw_0_azn.pcountry=US&aw_0_azn.planguage=en&cat_exclude=IAB1-8%2CIAB1-9%2CIAB7-41%2CIAB8-5%2CIAB8-18%2CIAB11-4%2CIAB23%2CIAB24%2CIAB25%2CIAB26&aw_0_cnt.rss=https%3A%2F%2Ffeeds.blubrry.com%2Ffeeds%2Fthe_virtual_couch.xml)