self-criticism creates stress, not change

according to flynn skidmore, you can’t change through self-criticism. this idea strongly resonated with what i already had in mind, and i want to share his explanation of it: when we criticize ourselves, our nervous system perceives it as a threat. it triggers a survival response: fight, flight, or freeze. in this state, the brain is no longer focused on growth, but on safety. that’s why we often…