# letting — RSS Amplifier Recent posts from the 6 feeds in the RSS Amplifier directory that cover letting. Page: Feed: --- ## [When they pull away (a shadow work + inner child healing session)](https://alyssaaazander.substack.com/p/when-they-pull-away) _2026-08-12 · Alyssa Zander · Codependency Alchemy_ A practice for excavating the push/pull dynamic ## [Why do I keep ending up in relationships like this?](https://alyssaaazander.substack.com/p/why-do-i-keep-ending-up-in-relationships) _2026-08-07 · Alyssa Zander · Codependency Alchemy_ You push. They pull. Here's what's really happening underneath the surface. ## [The cheat code that changed my relationship with myself](https://alyssaaazander.substack.com/p/the-cheat-code-that-changed-my-relationship) _2026-08-05 · Alyssa Zander · Codependency Alchemy_ Have you ever had one of those days where you just don’t feel like yourself? [Listen](https://api.substack.com/feed/podcast/209181727/a874e3c341652d1b2a877dd9a48cecba.mp3) ## [On guilt, repeating patterns, and why healing isn't linear](https://alyssaaazander.substack.com/p/on-guilt-repeating-patterns-and-why) _2026-07-29 · Alyssa Zander · Codependency Alchemy_ Have you ever found yourself thinking, “I thought I already healed this.” ## [August Events for Codependency Alchemy](https://alyssaaazander.substack.com/p/august-events-for-codependency-alchemy-bae) _2026-07-26 · Alyssa Zander · Codependency Alchemy_ Come join our live sessions and do shadow work and inner child healing around codependency patterns that might be negatively impacting your relationships. ## [When jealousy shows up (even when you trust your partner)](https://alyssaaazander.substack.com/p/when-jealousy-shows-up-even-when) _2026-07-22 · Alyssa Zander · Codependency Alchemy_ Have you ever felt jealous in your relationship... [Listen](https://api.substack.com/feed/podcast/207092670/1753a89fdab235a36b5a394b4c4bac00.mp3) ## [As you go, remember...](https://alyssaaazander.substack.com/p/as-you-go-remember) _2026-07-19 · Alyssa Zander · Codependency Alchemy_ We have grown up in a society that teaches us to compete against one another. To see each other as separate. To believe that if one person has it, it means there is less for you. ## [The part of me that wants a plan...](https://alyssaaazander.substack.com/p/the-part-of-me-that-wants-a-plan) _2026-07-17 · Alyssa Zander · Codependency Alchemy_ Our membership chat has certainly been lit this week, but I specifically wanted to share this one post that one of our members dropped in the chat that actually had me go back and open my journal from 2019… ## [Why letting go feels so hard (a shadow work session)](https://alyssaaazander.substack.com/p/why-letting-go-feels-so-hard-a-live) _2026-07-15 · Alyssa Zander · Codependency Alchemy_ What are you really afraid will happen if you let go? ## [Situated-Cost Alignment](https://www.lesecretairedefernand.co/en/entrepreneurship/situated-cost-alignment/) _2026-07-11 · Le secrétaire de Fernand_ An idea doesn't become a business because it's good, but when it removes more cost than it adds for each actor who has to say yes. A materialist approach to building a business. ## [One platform, from silicon to agent (Sponsored)](https://crawlproof.com/a/B2DaIulwJD77) _2026-07-10 · **Sponsored**_ Serverless inference plus Inference Router to optimize cost and latency at scale. ## [The future I had to grieve](https://alyssaaazander.substack.com/p/the-future-i-had-to-grieve) _2026-07-10 · Alyssa Zander · Codependency Alchemy_ The Art of Letting Go ## [The real reason you can't let go of your ex](https://alyssaaazander.substack.com/p/the-real-reason-you-cant-let-go-of) _2026-07-08 · Alyssa Zander · Codependency Alchemy_ Have you ever felt like you couldn’t let go of someone even though you knew the relationship was over? [Listen](https://api.substack.com/feed/podcast/204187084/0fe5c3310a660eff90b72670eff86485.mp3) ## [Not sure where to start?](https://alyssaaazander.substack.com/p/not-sure-where-to-start) _2026-07-01 · Alyssa Zander · Codependency Alchemy_ One of the questions I get asked the most is: “Which podcast episode should I listen to first?” ## [July Events for Codependency Alchemy](https://alyssaaazander.substack.com/p/july-events-for-codependency-alchemy-f5b) _2026-06-28 · Alyssa Zander · Codependency Alchemy_ Come join our live sessions and do shadow work and inner child healing around codependency patterns that might be negatively impacting your relationships. ## [How Substack became my full-time job](https://alyssaaazander.substack.com/p/how-substack-became-my-full-time) _2026-06-25 · Alyssa Zander · Codependency Alchemy_ It was Summer 2023 and I was desperate to find a platform that could hold this vision I had of a global community, coming together to heal codependency and the mother wound. ## [On asking for what you need, letting go, and repairing after conflict](https://alyssaaazander.substack.com/p/on-asking-for-what-you-need-letting) _2026-06-24 · Alyssa Zander · Codependency Alchemy_ A community AMA chat answering all your relationship questions ## [The answer you're looking for probably isn't where you've been searching](https://alyssaaazander.substack.com/p/the-answer-youre-looking-for-probably) _2026-06-23 · Alyssa Zander · Codependency Alchemy_ Five years ago I was sitting with one of my best friends, baby growing in her womb, and her daughter right next to me on my bright and colorful sarape. ## [Outgrow Your Taste, Don't Defend It](https://www.lesecretairedefernand.co/en/tech/outgrow-your-taste-dont-defend-it/) _2026-06-21 · Le secrétaire de Fernand_ Building a software solution is three distinct activities: understanding a reality, engineering a general machine, and encoding one into the other. Taste is required by none of them, which is exactly why ego hides there. ## [What if the pattern isn’t the problem?](https://alyssaaazander.substack.com/p/what-if-the-pattern-isnt-the-problem) _2026-06-17 · Alyssa Zander · Codependency Alchemy_ Have you ever caught yourself spiraling and thought, "Why am I doing this again?" This episode is about what happens when we stop trying to get rid of the pattern and start listening to what it's trying to tell us. [Listen](https://api.substack.com/feed/podcast/201480835/9c62eb53dfa0ba2b117eac1de6ba195f.mp3) ## [What are you afraid will happen if you finally accept yourself?](https://alyssaaazander.substack.com/p/what-are-you-afraid-will-happen-if) _2026-06-10 · Alyssa Zander · Codependency Alchemy_ Watch now | A live shadow work + inner child session ## [Every Channel. One Login. (Sponsored)](https://crawlproof.com/a/PwmDIB0lCGtY) _2026-06-10 · **Sponsored**_ 17,000+ live channels, movies and sports on any device. Free trial, no IP lock. ## [Make Feedback Loops Attribute, Don't Just Detect](https://www.lesecretairedefernand.co/en/tech/make-feedback-loops-attribute/) _2026-06-10 · Le secrétaire de Fernand_ Why feedback loops become more powerful when code makes its system concepts explicit. ## [Cultivating Acceptance](https://alyssaaazander.substack.com/p/cultivating-acceptance) _2026-06-05 · Alyssa Zander · Codependency Alchemy_ "The most terrifying thing is to accept oneself completely" ## [Why you feel the need to fill the space in relationships](https://alyssaaazander.substack.com/p/why-you-feel-the-need-to-fill-the) _2026-06-03 · Alyssa Zander · Codependency Alchemy_ Have you ever felt the need to fill the silence in your relationship just to make sure everything was okay? [Listen](https://api.substack.com/feed/podcast/199485740/90efeeab473d048eb9063647ce300252.mp3) ## [Letting Go in Our Relationship to Production](https://www.lesecretairedefernand.co/en/entrepreneurship/letting-go-relationship-production/) _2026-05-21 · Le secrétaire de Fernand_ On what we can inhabit in our effort, and what must remain exposed to reality when we produce for others. ## [My Why, My How, My What](https://www.lesecretairedefernand.co/en/entrepreneurship/my-why-my-how-my-what/) _2026-05-21 · Le secrétaire de Fernand_ A personal note on what drives my work, how I like to build, and the concrete forms through which my values can take shape. ## [How AI Is Changing Our Relationship to Work in Software Engineering](https://www.lesecretairedefernand.co/en/tech/how-ai-is-changing-our-relationship-to-work-in-software-engineering/) _2026-05-21 · Le secrétaire de Fernand_ On the excitement of AI-assisted coding, the disappearance of friction, and the need to learn how to tame our new tools. ## [Letting Go in Our Relationship with Others](https://www.lesecretairedefernand.co/en/entrepreneurship/letting-go-in-our-relationship-with-others/) _2026-05-13 · Le secrétaire de Fernand_ On self-assertion, other people’s judgment, and what we cannot control in how we are received. ## [AI Makes It Absurd to Keep Engineers Away from Reality](https://www.lesecretairedefernand.co/en/entrepreneurship/ai-makes-it-absurd-to-keep-engineers-away-from-reality/) _2026-05-12 · Le secrétaire de Fernand_ When the cost of producing code falls, value shifts toward understanding the real problem. ## [Can Startups Share Value More Fairly Without Scaring Investors?](https://www.lesecretairedefernand.co/en/entrepreneurship/can-startups-share-value-more-fairly-without-scaring-investors/) _2026-05-11 · Le secrétaire de Fernand_ A proposal for investor-compatible startup ownership that recognizes both financial capital and the time spent building the company. ## [Letting Go Does Not Mean Stopping Acting](https://www.lesecretairedefernand.co/en/entrepreneurship/letting-go-does-not-mean-stopping-acting/) _2026-05-11 · Le secrétaire de Fernand_ A practical definition of letting go: act on the conditions, then accept the uncertainty of adaptation. ## [Hire AI-Powered Freelancers Fast (Sponsored)](https://crawlproof.com/a/LPVCWQfC35hF) _2026-05-10 · **Sponsored**_ Browse and hire skilled professionals using AI tools — free to post, free to apply. ## [Attention Capital](https://www.lesecretairedefernand.co/en/entrepreneurship/attention-capital/) _2026-05-06 · Le secrétaire de Fernand_ Why modern inequality is also about the ability to protect one’s time, attention, and environment. ## [Encode, Don't Imply](https://www.lesecretairedefernand.co/en/tech/encode-dont-imply/) _2026-05-05 · Le secrétaire de Fernand_ Why the implicit becomes fragile when humans and agents co-produce code. ## [Do Humans Change, or Do They Adapt?](https://www.lesecretairedefernand.co/en/entrepreneurship/do-humans-change-or-do-they-adapt/) _2026-05-01 · Le secrétaire de Fernand_ A simple thesis: human beings do not directly remake themselves; they are transformed mainly through adaptation to their conditions of life. ## [The Brain Needs Recovery Too](https://www.lesecretairedefernand.co/en/entrepreneurship/the-brain-needs-recovery-too/) _2026-04-28 · Le secrétaire de Fernand_ What sport can teach us about effort, recovery, and intellectual work. ## [Dual-Capital Contributive SAS](https://www.lesecretairedefernand.co/en/entrepreneurship/dual-capital-contributive-sas/) _2026-04-24 · Le secrétaire de Fernand_ A proposal for a startup structure that remains legible to investors while sharing created value more fairly based on the time and energy invested. ## [The Time Ideas Need](https://www.lesecretairedefernand.co/en/entrepreneurship/the-time-ideas-need/) _2026-04-24 · Le secrétaire de Fernand_ On maturation, attention, and what speed cannot replace. ## [How I Write the Articles Published Here](https://www.lesecretairedefernand.co/en/entrepreneurship/how-i-write-my-articles/) _2026-04-22 · Le secrétaire de Fernand_ An honest explanation of my working method for writing the articles published on Le secrétaire de Fernand. ## [Build Systems, Don't Polish Prose](https://www.lesecretairedefernand.co/en/tech/build-systems-dont-polish-prose/) _2026-04-21 · Le secrétaire de Fernand_ We still talk about code as if it were style. But code runs in the world. ## [About](https://www.lesecretairedefernand.co/en/) _2026-04-20 · Le secrétaire de Fernand_ Le secrétaire de Fernand — about the project. ## Letting Go _2026-04-08 · Experimental Stories - Volume 1_ [Listen](https://feeds.fountain.fm/OXl6fJnkE1QbwQi0pXND/items/ikOVDnN39Q092Clp14uH/files/AUDIO---DEFAULT---d383fef6-2270-4214-a97a-e10982490e56.wav) ## I Can't Say Goodbye _2026-04-08 · Experimental Stories - Volume 1_ [Listen](https://feeds.fountain.fm/OXl6fJnkE1QbwQi0pXND/items/ysm4lCNLm07LezJQ3ELD/files/AUDIO---DEFAULT---67a913be-8ee3-490e-8d88-997c3e1f4e80.wav) ## Phosphene _2026-04-08 · Experimental Stories - Volume 1_ [Listen](https://feeds.fountain.fm/OXl6fJnkE1QbwQi0pXND/items/ydDjPB5OHUzkpFP9F3P8/files/AUDIO---DEFAULT---2b27cf54-1e34-48ae-b76e-2bb34150396c.wav) ## Hurtful _2026-04-08 · Experimental Stories - Volume 1_ [Listen](https://feeds.fountain.fm/OXl6fJnkE1QbwQi0pXND/items/pGr3KaSxdFPvOj8Zl3j2/files/AUDIO---DEFAULT---994dff6c-c744-44e9-8662-4a5545baa2f9.wav) ## Running on Empty _2026-04-08 · Experimental Stories - Volume 1_ [Listen](https://feeds.fountain.fm/OXl6fJnkE1QbwQi0pXND/items/grCYqjqaeyQ8TuNFdIsU/files/AUDIO---DEFAULT---76eb7bd6-a718-4d03-b50f-eda53af40701.wav) ## If I Told You _2026-04-08 · Experimental Stories - Volume 1_ [Listen](https://feeds.fountain.fm/OXl6fJnkE1QbwQi0pXND/items/GI3G2ozT6eLxRVV0caRo/files/AUDIO---DEFAULT---46da1539-156a-46c1-89c9-5c19d30ac66d.wav) ## Don't Let Me _2026-04-08 · Experimental Stories - Volume 1_ [Listen](https://feeds.fountain.fm/OXl6fJnkE1QbwQi0pXND/items/be48HBJuGfnnVgw3SUIR/files/AUDIO---DEFAULT---5ea264ae-dca6-48f6-8e71-f0a4bc71d567.wav) ## Thoughts _2026-04-08 · Experimental Stories - Volume 1_ [Listen](https://feeds.fountain.fm/OXl6fJnkE1QbwQi0pXND/items/j4IMiAgfmtDZyQYHT8uT/files/AUDIO---DEFAULT---e9d8e295-8ccd-4dd5-9fe3-91455686cf62.wav) ## [Telling Lies](https://www.wavlake.com/album/d43fcb38-c112-4e01-a2ec-7d4bd338161b) _2026-02-10 · My Friend Jimi · Telling Lies_ [Listen](https://op3.dev/e,pg=816b418c-4e41-5fa3-a608-d4059083a78e/https://d12wklypp119aj.cloudfront.net/track/4ddf4e62-c14b-4347-af00-aee318dbb8dc.mp3) ## [Why I’m Not Voting for Harris](https://write.as/zampano/why-im-not-voting-for-harris?pk_campaign=rss-feed) _2024-10-16 · Zampanò_