Use an LLM as an Independent Judge in Difficult Conversations

Table Of Contents TL;DR The problem: you are the worst possible judge of your own conflict The hack: make the LLM the independent judge The open question is the whole trick Then bring it into the 1:1 For confidential threads: use a local model Why this works better than doing it yourself Caveats - and they matter Takeaway More TL;DR Giving and taking feedback is hard, and it is hardest exactly…