Mourning is not a Task

Think about the conventional language we use to talk about mourning. “Have you recovered?” “Have you processed it?” “Yeah, I’m on good terms with it now.” “I need a few more months, I’m still a bit lost.” They seem to suggest that mourning is a process that can start at a specific time, can be worked on throughout a period of time, and end when the process is finished. This makes sense on a…