Naughty or Nice?

Who made the list? When I'm with someone who has a curiosity about life, a sense of humor and intelligence, it is a source of energy for me. Then they do something human or less than perfect and go from my Nice List to my Naughty List - an energy drain. What about me? How many times have I decided I'm just not good enough to make the list? How do you define quality and are you direct about it?