# high standards (blogs) — RSS Amplifier Recent posts from the 4 feeds in the RSS Amplifier directory that cover high standards. Page: Feed: --- ## [I Feel Like I’m Broken Inside. How Do I Fix Myself?](https://www.doctornerdlove.com/i-feel-like-im-broken-inside-how-do-i-fix-myself/) _2026-08-19 · Dr. NerdLove · Paging Dr. NerdLove_ He'd been struggling before, but a bad date was the final straw. Is he just too broken to find love now? Is there any way for him to heal? via Paging Dr. NerdLove @ doctornerdlove.com ## [How Do I Feel More Attractive When I’m Objectively Not?](https://www.doctornerdlove.com/how-do-i-feel-more-attractive-when-im-objectively-not/) _2026-08-17 · Dr. NerdLove · Paging Dr. NerdLove_ Two readers, one question: how are they ever supposed to find love or even feel attractive when everything says they're not? Is it even possible? via Paging Dr. NerdLove @ doctornerdlove.com ## [Is My Friend Secretly Involving Me In Her Kink?](https://www.doctornerdlove.com/is-my-friend-secretly-involving-me-in-her-kink/) _2026-08-14 · Dr. NerdLove · Paging Dr. NerdLove_ She invited her co-worker to move in, and things have mostly been great. But now her roommate is making comments that make her question the nature of their relationship. via Paging Dr. NerdLove @ doctornerdlove.com ## [Did Ending The Benefits In My FWB End The Friendship Too?](https://www.doctornerdlove.com/did-ending-the-benefits-in-my-fwb-end-the-friendship-too/) _2026-08-12 · Dr. NerdLove · Paging Dr. NerdLove_ They had been FWBs for years. Then he had to end the "benefits" of their relationship and now they're both tense and unhappy. Did their friendship end too? via Paging Dr. NerdLove @ doctornerdlove.com ## [My Boyfriend Is Close With His Ex and I Hate How It Makes Me Feel!](https://www.doctornerdlove.com/my-boyfriend-is-close-with-his-ex-and-i-hate-how-it-makes-me-feel/) _2026-08-10 · Dr. NerdLove · Paging Dr. NerdLove_ It's one thing to date someone who's friends with his ex. But what about when it makes you feel like you're the side piece in your own relationship? via Paging Dr. NerdLove @ doctornerdlove.com ## [I’m Having A Hard Time Maintaining Boundaries With My Crush!](https://www.doctornerdlove.com/im-having-a-hard-time-maintaining-boundaries-with-my-crush/) _2026-08-07 · Dr. NerdLove · Paging Dr. NerdLove_ Her friend keeps teasing her, which wouldn't be so bad if she didn't have a screaming crush. Can she ask her friend to stop without ruining the friendship? via Paging Dr. NerdLove @ doctornerdlove.com ## [Did My Insecurity Sabotage A Relationship Before It Even Began?](https://www.doctornerdlove.com/did-my-insecurity-sabotage-a-relationship-before-it-even-began/) _2026-08-05 · Dr. NerdLove · Paging Dr. NerdLove_ She matched with him on Tinder, asked for his number and asked for a date. But how could she possibly like someone like him when her Instagram suggested otherwise? via Paging Dr. NerdLove @ doctornerdlove.com ## [Compactions Are Good Actually](https://akshay.co/posts/compactions-are-good-actually/) _2026-08-03 · Akshay Katyal | MrDHat_ Recently, in our team (& on the internet), compaction has been a hot topic. We have been trying to get people to compact more often because there is a belief that compactions are good, with the current state of models, and are absolutely needed for good outcomes. There’s obvious pushback around it “losing context” or “it being really slow”. I get the complaints and it… ## [How Do I Move On From A Relationship When I Can’t Let It Go?](https://www.doctornerdlove.com/how-do-i-move-on-from-a-relationship-when-i-cant-let-it-go/) _2026-08-03 · Dr. NerdLove · Paging Dr. NerdLove_ She knows the relationship needed to end, she doesn't want to go back, but she can't stop thinking about what might have been. How can she finally let go? via Paging Dr. NerdLove @ doctornerdlove.com ## [Code for the People](https://iandanielstewart.com/2026/07/09/code-for-the-people/) _2026-07-09 · Ian Stewart · Ian Daniel Stewart_ New experience for me: I make an appearance in a 20-minute documentary about free open source software and the open web as a builder of the open web. The open parts are the most important parts. Variety calls it a rallying cry for users to fight for the open internet. It is. I d explain more \[ \] ## [Ask the crowd: AI or not (Sponsored)](https://crawlproof.com/a/YUeWV07tSzhC) _2026-07-09 · **Sponsored**_ Get a transparent verdict from verified humans via web, RSS, or API. ## [Writing Good, Safe, Cost-Efficient Skills](https://akshay.co/posts/writing-good-skills/) _2026-06-30 · Akshay Katyal | MrDHat_ We have more than 600 skills, spread across nearly 80 plugins. Anyone on the team can write one and publish it to a marketplace the rest of us install from. While reviewing the PRs that added these skills, our team kept leaving the same comments on skill after skill. The same feedback came up so often that it made sense to write it down once. So I built a skill that reviews skills, and we open… ## [We Accidentally Built a Second Codebase](https://akshay.co/posts/accidental-second-codebase/) _2026-06-06 · Akshay Katyal | MrDHat_ A few weeks ago, I deleted 93 skills in a single pull request. If you haven’t worked with them, a skill is a small bundle of instructions you hand to the model, a workflow you’ve written down once so it runs the same way every time, the kind of thing you’d reach for when you’re chasing down a flaky test, or pulling together the context for an incident at 2 am. ## [High Standards Begin With Bare Minimum Standards](https://akshay.co/posts/bare-minimum-standards/) _2025-12-01 · Akshay Katyal | MrDHat_ Everyone (rightfully so!) wants high standards. We admire craftsmanship, discipline, and excellence. In fact, we encourage others to push harder and aim higher. In the early days of my first real startup, our code base was a mess, and every single pull request was a disaster. A total dumpster fire, honestly. We all wanted high standards, but we were absolutely drowning in not even having a floor.… ## [My Shelf](https://akshay.co/shelf/) _2025-08-26 · Akshay Katyal | MrDHat_ I’ve been exploring a hybrid approach to learning that combines the depth of traditional books with the breadth of AI-generated research. Traditional books give me the foundational knowledge and deep insights from experts, while LLM-generated research books allow me to explore specific topics with comprehensive, up-to-date information synthesized from multiple sources. I find that reading a… ## [How Elasticsearch Handles Deletions (and Why Our 30TB Purge Didn’t Break Anything)](https://akshay.co/posts/elasticsearch-deletions/) _2025-06-23 · Akshay Katyal | MrDHat_ I recently joined a new team & my onboarding task was to optimize storage in one of our Elasticsearch clusters which held 100s of terabytes of data. One of the first things we needed to figure out was whether the system could survive a massive deletion during peak traffic. We expected indexing to clog up and search latencies to spike. What actually happened was more interesting: the cluster… ## [Intrapreneur: Secret Superpower of an Ex-Entrepreneur](https://akshay.co/posts/intrapreneur/) _2025-01-01 · Akshay Katyal | MrDHat_ In my last post, I described the transition from entrepreneurship to employment and how I felt during it. Today, I want to discuss how I view that transition from a practical point of view. As an ex-entrepreneur, I knew what my superpowers were. I had learned to empathize with customers naturally, read market trends & build a strong fundamentals-focused team. As I started looking for a role, I had… ## [Hi 👋 I am Akshay](https://akshay.co/about/) _2024-12-29 · Akshay Katyal | MrDHat_ I’m an engineer with a passion for building things and seeing how they grow. I’ve spent over 10 years in tech, with almost 7 of those as an entrepreneur. Engineering, to me, is more than just a job - it’s an art form, a way to solve problems and create something meaningful. After running startups, including one that got acquired, I’ve moved into product development roles at some exciting… ## [From Entrepreneur to Employee: A Journey of Transition and Growth](https://akshay.co/posts/entrepreneur-to-employee/) _2024-12-29 · Akshay Katyal | MrDHat_ Around 3 years back, after spending seven years as an entrepreneur—I found myself at crossroads. Having built startups, one of which was acquired, I decided to step away from the rollercoaster of entrepreneurship to explore what being an employee is like. This transition wasn’t just about changing roles; it was about navigating a shift in mindset, skillset, and priorities. Why I Made the…