Does the family work for the business, or the business for the family?

I was across the table from someone I’d trusted as an advisor. I’d come with a real question about the business. His answer was the kind of thing that makes you smile, nod, and then sit in your car for ten minutes afterward wondering if you heard him right. The gist of it: optimize the family’s take. I was kind of shocked that the advisor was so off the mark. But then I realized a family business…