New Year, New Rules: Goal Setting Without Self-betrayal

Every January arrives with a familiar pressure. New year. New goals. New you. For many people, goal setting is framed as hopeful and motivating. But for those who grew up in restrictive, high-control, or shame-based environments, the New Year can feel less like a fresh start and more like a performance review. Suddenly, old voices get louder: You should be doing more. If you were really healed,…