Self-Optimization Became Self-Abandonment (Brutally Honest Realizations)

Your girl is in one of the most transformative seasons of her life - including my Saturn return gettin' started, a complete identity unraveling (back to 'factory settings' and who I really am), and (yay happy news!!)- getting engaged. And in the midst of it allll since last Fall, I realized something I never saw coming: I had become so good at optimizing my life/success that I accidentally…