# couples therapy (blogs) — RSS Amplifier Recent posts from the 5 feeds in the RSS Amplifier directory that cover couples therapy. Page: Feed: --- ## [Why Won't My Surrogate Hurry Up & Fuck Me?](https://risdonroberts.substack.com/p/why-wont-my-surrogate-hurry-up-and) _2026-08-16 · Risdon Roberts · Out Beyond Intimacy_ Thoughts on surrogate partner therapy ## [Why I'm disappointed with my fellow millennials right now](https://yourenevertheonlyone.substack.com/p/why-im-disappointed-with-my-fellow) _2026-08-13 · Cat Sims · Not So Smug Now_ Over on Instagram, I make it a point not to talk about politics (unless it directly relates to my usual content of parenting, menopause, sobriety or mental health) but recently, my fellow millennials have been disappointing me enormously. ## [Why I'm aiming for 'fresh' and not 'young' when it comes to my face (and my best hacks for achieving it)](https://yourenevertheonlyone.substack.com/p/why-im-aiming-for-fresh-and-not-young) _2026-08-12 · Cat Sims · Not So Smug Now_ I am so sick and tired of hearing about ‘reversing ageing’ and reading articles about how to look half your age. ## [Stop Masturbating in my Pussy.](https://risdonroberts.substack.com/p/stop-masturbating-in-my-pussy) _2026-08-11 · Risdon Roberts · Out Beyond Intimacy_ The allure of the unconscious wife: Are women people? ## [Things I've learned after 5 days back in the USA (the extended version!)](https://yourenevertheonlyone.substack.com/p/things-ive-learned-after-5-days-back) _2026-08-11 · Cat Sims · Not So Smug Now_ When I was 20, I spent a year studying at the University of California, San Diego. ## [You’ve Been Told Your Expectations Are Too High](https://therapydave.com/gottman/should-i-lower-my-expectations-in-my-marriage/) _2026-07-27 · David Lechnyr, LCSW · TherapyDave_ The advice arrives from every direction. A friend says it gently over coffee. A book says it with a chapter title. Sometimes a previous therapist said it, and sometimes it is just the voice in your own head at one in the morning: Maybe I expect too much. Maybe this is what marriage actually is, ... Read more The post You’ve Been Told Your Expectations Are Too High appeared first on TherapyDave . ## [I Fucked my Reply Guy and it Broke my Brain](https://risdonroberts.substack.com/p/i-fucked-my-reply-guy-and-it-broke) _2026-07-24 · Risdon Roberts · Out Beyond Intimacy_ ...On internalized heterophobia and wanting traditional things ## [Why sport still isn't doing enough to condemn toxic masculinity.](https://yourenevertheonlyone.substack.com/p/why-sport-still-isnt-doing-enough) _2026-07-15 · Cat Sims · Not So Smug Now_ Win or lose tonight, the 2026 England football team have given us a team to finally be proud of but the bigwigs at the top of decision making in sport, are still platforming toxic masculinity and hoping we don’t notice.Not So Smug Now is a reader-supported publication. ## [In defence of Katie Price who's got Nothing To Hide](https://yourenevertheonlyone.substack.com/p/in-defence-of-katie-price-whos-got) _2026-07-08 · Cat Sims · Not So Smug Now_ ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️ ## [This mantra has saved me sanity when it comes to caring for my parents.](https://yourenevertheonlyone.substack.com/p/this-mantra-has-saved-me-sanity-when) _2026-07-03 · Cat Sims · Not So Smug Now_ With more and more of us acquiring an unexpected membership for the Sandwich Generation Club, I thought I’d share my top tips for surviving without losing your sanity or your relationship with your parents or other family members.Not So Smug Now is a reader-supported publication. ## [Play Both Sides Of The Lie (Sponsored)](https://crawlproof.com/a/2O2qPg8J2kww) _2026-07-03 · **Sponsored**_ Two operatives, one manufactured war — uncover the Complete Truth after both campaigns. ## [It’s Not That You Fight. It’s What Happens Inside the Fight.](https://therapydave.com/gottman/what-predicts-divorce/) _2026-07-03 · David Lechnyr, LCSW · TherapyDave_ By the time a couple starts wondering whether the marriage is in real trouble, both partners are usually keeping a private tally. Two fights this week. Four last month. One of you counts them as evidence the marriage is failing. The other counts them as evidence that bringing things up only makes it worse. The ... Read more The post It’s Not That You Fight. It’s What Happens Inside the Fight.… ## [Most of What You’ve Been Told About Failing Marriages Is Wrong](https://therapydave.com/gottman/why-marriages-really-fail/) _2026-07-02 · David Lechnyr, LCSW · TherapyDave_ By the time a marriage is in real trouble, both partners usually have a private theory about why. One of you has quietly concluded that the two of you are just too different. The other suspects it traces back to something that happened years ago and never got repaired. Neither theory came from nowhere. They ... Read more The post Most of What You’ve Been Told About Failing Marriages Is Wrong… ## [The Mounjaro Diaries: Forget weight loss; there's so much more to this drug](https://yourenevertheonlyone.substack.com/p/the-mounjaro-diaries-forget-weight) _2026-06-14 · Cat Sims · Not So Smug Now_ It’s been a while since I updated The Mounjaro Diaries but I had to write about my most recent thoughts because frankly, this drug has been life changing for me in so many ways and honestly, the weight loss is the least exciting of them all. ## [Father's Day Gifts? I've got you babe.](https://yourenevertheonlyone.substack.com/p/fathers-day-gifts-ive-got-you-babe) _2026-06-14 · Cat Sims · Not So Smug Now_ After announcing it was Mother’s Day a week early back in March, I am trying to make up for it by curating a cracking edit for Father’s Day gifts in time for you to get yourself sorted. ## [Transcript from couples therapy (with my Whoop)](https://portfolio-blog-starter.vercel.app/blog/Transcript-From-Couples-Therapy-With-My-Whoop) _2026-06-11 · My Portfolio_ A transcript from couples therapy with my wearable ## [The best true crime podcasts you probably haven't listened to](https://yourenevertheonlyone.substack.com/p/the-best-true-crime-podcasts-you) _2026-06-08 · Cat Sims · Not So Smug Now_ It’s getting harder and harder to find true crime podcasts that I haven’t listened to or that I haven’t already consumed in another format like a documentary. ## [Affordable outfits I'll be wearing all summer](https://yourenevertheonlyone.substack.com/p/affordable-outfits-ill-be-wearing) _2026-06-07 · Cat Sims · Not So Smug Now_ This isn’t a fashion Substack but I do wear clothes and sometimes I think that real people sharing the clothes they actually buy and wear is the most useful kind of fashion content. ## [What do Protest Behaviors in Relationships Look Like?](https://therapydave.com/relationships/protest-behaviors-in-relationships/) _2026-05-20 · David Lechnyr, LCSW · TherapyDave_ If your partner is upset at you and you react, you might be right. You’ve got every right to be upset. However, imagine you’ve got a child. They fall off their bicycle and they scream bloody murder, and you run up to them and they say, “Kill all the bicycles. Bikes are evil. Kill the ... Read more The post What do Protest Behaviors in Relationships Look Like? appeared first on TherapyDave . ## [How Childhood Wounds Affect Our Relationship with Our Partner](https://therapydave.com/relationships/how-childhood-wounds-affect-marriage/) _2026-05-20 · David Lechnyr, LCSW · TherapyDave_ Childhood wounds affect your relationship in this way: Imagine you grew up being uber controlled. Your parents had a say in everything. You weren’t even allowed to have friends, so much so that your best friend was an AM radio. You were a latchkey kid, and you were essentially controlled in every aspect of your ... Read more The post How Childhood Wounds Affect Our Relationship with Our Partner… ## [Personality Patterns in Couples Therapy](https://therapydave.com/professional-clinical/personality-patterns-in-couples-therapy/) _2026-05-17 · David Lechnyr, LCSW · TherapyDave_ Title: Personality Patterns in Couples Therapy: A Relational Framework for Understanding Personality DisordersLast updated: May 17, 2026 Audience and scope note This document is written for mental health clinicians, relationship therapists, and advanced trainees who work with couples and want a clearer way to recognize stable personality patterns that shape relational dynamics. This framework is… ## [8.1% APY Plus Free Stock (Sponsored)](https://crawlproof.com/a/5T9bpNlgEQPC) _2026-05-17 · **Sponsored**_ Claim 8.1% APY and up to $1,030 in SK hynix and Nvidia stock. ## [You’re Not Jealous by Nature. You’re Scared.](https://healthyrelationships.substack.com/p/youre-not-jealous-by-nature-youre) _2026-05-06 · Alina Blăgoi - Psihoterapeut · Healthy relationships_ There is a sentence I often hear in the therapy room—spoken with shame, resignation, sometimes with a deep kind of exhaustion: ## [Online Therapy vs. In-Office Therapy: What I’ve Learned About Both](https://healthyrelationships.substack.com/p/online-therapy-vs-in-office-therapy) _2026-05-06 · Alina Blăgoi - Psihoterapeut · Healthy relationships_ Hi, This week I had an online session with a couple from Cluj. ## [Letter to the Partner Who Withdraws](https://healthyrelationships.substack.com/p/letter-to-the-partner-who-withdraws) _2026-05-06 · Alina Blăgoi - Psihoterapeut · Healthy relationships_ I’m writing to you—the one who goes quiet when things get hard. ## [ANGER](https://healthyrelationships.substack.com/p/anger) _2026-05-06 · Alina Blăgoi - Psihoterapeut · Healthy relationships_ Last week, I had a session in my office where anger filled the entire room. ## [Six Years](https://healthyrelationships.substack.com/p/six-years) _2026-05-06 · Alina Blăgoi - Psihoterapeut · Healthy relationships_ Many people wonder when the right time is to start couples therapy—and the answer, most of the time, comes much later than it should. ## [What Happens in Couples Therapy (EFT): The Moment That Changes a Relationship](https://healthyrelationships.substack.com/p/what-happens-in-couples-therapy-eft) _2026-05-06 · Alina Blăgoi - Psihoterapeut · Healthy relationships_ Couples therapy helps partners understand these patterns and create a more emotionally safe relationship. ## [What Is EFT Therapy and Why It Works: My Experience After 25 Years in Practice](https://healthyrelationships.substack.com/p/what-is-eft-therapy-and-why-it-works-bca) _2026-05-06 · Alina Blăgoi - Psihoterapeut · Healthy relationships_ Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) explained simply: how it helps relationships and what it has taught me after 25 years of working with people ## [Why you feel lonely in a relationship: the real causes and how to reconnect emotionally](https://healthyrelationships.substack.com/p/why-you-feel-lonely-in-a-relationship) _2026-03-23 · Alina Blăgoi - Psihoterapeut · Healthy relationships_ Loneliness as a couple: when the relationship exists, but the connection is missing ## [Why couple conflicts are not about the present](https://healthyrelationships.substack.com/p/why-couple-conflicts-are-not-about) _2026-03-20 · Alina Blăgoi - Psihoterapeut · Healthy relationships_ The pursuer–withdrawer dance in EFT – Complete guide ## [Contrasting Perspectives on the Use of Couples Therapy in Instances of Relational Violence](https://risdonroberts.substack.com/p/contrasting-perspectives-on-the-use) _2026-03-13 · Risdon Roberts · Out Beyond Intimacy_ Or: Why is couples therapy contraindicated when violence is present? ## [Make any domain metal (Sponsored)](https://crawlproof.com/a/lCizMy9BPN9v) _2026-03-13 · **Sponsored**_ Turn any domain into a blacked-out metal landing page with an email waitlist ## [Wait, I’m not Crazy?! Adults Who Grew Up in Dysfunctional Families](https://therapydave.com/codependency/adults-who-grew-up-in-dysfunctional-families/) _2026-02-24 · David Lechnyr, LCSW · TherapyDave_ If you spent your childhood walking on eggshells, managing a parent’s moods, or feeling like your family was fundamentally different from everyone else’s, the traits you developed to survive that environment didn’t disappear when you grew up. This article, written by David Lechnyr, LCSW and Certified Gottman Therapist, explains the most common patterns that develop ... Read more The post Wait, I’m… ## [The Beatiful End of Software](https://portfolio-blog-starter.vercel.app/blog/The-Beautiful-End-of-Software) _2026-02-19 · My Portfolio_ Leapfrogging software to a digital employee future ## [The Power Paradox: Why Accepting Your Partner’s Influence Strengthens Your Relationship](https://therapydave.com/gottman/accepting-influence-in-relationships/) _2025-12-17 · David Lechnyr, LCSW · TherapyDave_ What Is Accepting Influence in Relationships? Accepting influence means finding common ground with your partner and saying yes to their ideas, even when you only agree with part of what they’re saying. The Gottman Institute’s research reveals a counterintuitive truth: To hold genuine power in a relationship, you must be willing to share that power. ... Read more The post The Power Paradox: Why… ## [When Your Partner Can’t Hear You Anymore: The Hidden Pattern Destroying Conversations](https://therapydave.com/gottman/demand-withdraw-pattern-destroying-relationships/) _2025-11-21 · David Lechnyr, LCSW · TherapyDave_ Three hours. That’s how long Sarah found herself trapped in the same argument with her husband on a Tuesday night. She’d launched into explaining her frustration about their weekend plans, and somehow they’d spiraled into every unresolved issue from the past six months. By the time they finally stopped talking, she was hoarse from explaining ... Read more The post When Your Partner Can’t Hear You… ## [How to Make Your Partner Feel Loved: A Gottman Method Exercise for Building Fondness and Admiration](https://therapydave.com/gottman/fondness-admiration-exercise/) _2025-11-20 · David Lechnyr, LCSW · TherapyDave_ Most couples know what makes them feel criticized or dismissed by their partner. You can probably rattle off a list without even thinking about it. But here’s what’s interesting: When I ask couples to tell me what their partner does that makes them feel loved, respected, or admired, they often go blank. Or they struggle. ... Read more The post How to Make Your Partner Feel Loved: A Gottman Method… ## [Rethinking Sex Addiction](https://risdonroberts.substack.com/p/rethinking-sex-addiction) _2025-09-08 · Risdon Roberts · Out Beyond Intimacy_ The Semantics of Ego-Dystonic Habitual Sexual Behavior ## [Hello Stranger](https://portfolio-blog-starter.vercel.app/blog/Hello-Stranger) _2025-08-04 · My Portfolio_ How to make friends ## [Top Interview Questions for 2026](https://portfolio-blog-starter.vercel.app/blog/Top-Interview-Questions-for-2026) _2025-07-28 · My Portfolio_ We care a lot about company culture ## [The One Thing AI Can't Generate](https://portfolio-blog-starter.vercel.app/blog/The-One-Thing-AI-Cant-Generate) _2025-07-05 · My Portfolio_ AI-assisted coding and the future of software ## [Building Toys](https://portfolio-blog-starter.vercel.app/blog/Building-Toys) _2025-06-28 · My Portfolio_ Can building toys solve capitalisms biggest problems (lol) ## [The Best Hardware Store in the World](https://portfolio-blog-starter.vercel.app/blog/The-Best-Hardware-Store-In-the-World-aka-Generative-Interfaces-Contd) _2025-06-21 · My Portfolio_ Continued thoughts on Generative Interfaces, Tools, and LLMs ## [Generative Interfaces for LLMs](https://portfolio-blog-starter.vercel.app/blog/Generative-Interfaces-for-LLMs) _2025-06-13 · My Portfolio_ Early thoughts on the future of interfaces with LLMs ## [The Lasagna Firehose](https://portfolio-blog-starter.vercel.app/blog/The-Lasagna-Firehose-Fractal-Bootcamp-Week-1) _2025-06-07 · My Portfolio_ On becoming more technical ## [The Neurobiology of “Falling in Love”](https://risdonroberts.substack.com/p/the-neurobiology-of-falling-in-love) _2025-04-30 · Risdon Roberts · Out Beyond Intimacy_ The science behind why having a crush makes you feel \*literally insane\* ## [Hot Girl Autism: Persona and Masking in the Experiences of Female-Presenting AFAB Autistic Sex Workers](https://risdonroberts.substack.com/p/hot-girl-autism-persona-and-masking) _2025-04-23 · Risdon Roberts · Out Beyond Intimacy_ Why are all the girls at the club only eating uncrustables? ## [Using Social Psychology to Prevent Misogynistic Extremist Domestic Terrorism](https://risdonroberts.substack.com/p/using-social-psychology-to-prevent) _2025-04-16 · Risdon Roberts · Out Beyond Intimacy_ How do we stop Incels? ## [Sex Problems = Gender Problems](https://risdonroberts.substack.com/p/sex-problems-gender-problems) _2025-04-09 · Risdon Roberts · Out Beyond Intimacy_ The Penis is Mysterious and Important ## [I Was Not Told the Apocalypse Would be so Horny](https://risdonroberts.substack.com/p/i-was-not-told-the-apocalypse-would) _2025-03-26 · Risdon Roberts · Out Beyond Intimacy_ on arching my back while running from disaster