Transforming How We Speak With Children

"No climbing to the top!" When our daughter was in kindergarten, her school installed an amazing rope-and-steel climbing structure. The kindergartners were forbidden from climbing to the very top, which meant that adults were always hovering around the thing, "reminding" the children when they got too high. One day, I asked her if she was loving the new climber. She replied, "It's kind of in the…