You can't know why people like you.

My therapist recently told me, "You can't know why people like you," and it was one of those rare lightbulb moments. I wanted to talk about some of the thoughts it brought up, in case other people have had similar experiences to me. I often speculate on why people don't like me, which as you might imagine is a big source of my social anxiety, but for many years I've been pretty sure of the reasons…