Feeling violated, and maybe it's my fault

I briefly dated a guy from a dating app earlier this month. While I'm not looking for a life partner at the moment, I still struggle with feeling like I'm too picky. But on paper this seemed like a good match: we're both well educated and progressive, and we have a similar sense of humor and taste in music. He was down to text via Signal and was always super responsive. We even have similar roots,…